My husband 34M was bedridden for 2 months now due to having a hard time to walk because of complications. He is in pain and could barely get up on her own and needed help with basic things like eating, bathing and getting to bathroom. I 33F took time off to take care of him as long as my body can. I couldn’t get home or even see our son.
His family lives close her mother and 3 siblings are 20 minutes away from the hospital. I reached out and asked for help occasionally, even just to check in and stay few hours while I worked. My MIL tried to stay 1 day and also his siblings but they couldn’t last.
When I get back from work my husband didn’t change his diaper nor take a shower. They only feed him and couldn’t stomach to change diaper with poop. I was literally MAD at them! I told my MIL " Why couldn’t you change his diaper with poop? when he was a baby you are doing that." MIL said her stomach turned up side down and couldn’t do it. I let him watch as I change his diaper and clothes and uses towel to freshen my husband. Now I ask my boss to give me 2 weeks leave to take care of my husband.
My MIL and his siblings said I was disrespectful and telling me things behind my back.
AITA for shouting at them when they couldn’t even take care of their own blood?
NTA. Please look into some nursing care for your husband. You cannot do this alone for any significant amount of time. I hope he is able to recover.
I am still waiting for the doctor’s diagnosis because they found something on his colon and not sure if it’s malignant or benign. I cannot afford to get him to a nursing care.
Why aren’t the nurses or ppl at hospital doing those things? Changing his diapers & stuff.
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So far in the last 9 days you’ve been mad at uncle over a pic,, not paying dad’s med. & now mad at at Mother In law. Why is your name Nicholas if your Female?
Whatever you think is okay. I am not judging you and we have different situations in life. I hope you are always doing well.
You’re not judging me because I’m not making up posts out of boredom. Instead I’m comments on them.
I don’t understand what’s happening here. She says she took time off to care for him, but then says she can’t get home. And why can’t she see her child. And if he’s in a hospital, why aren’t the nurses changing his diaper?
Sorry, but your story isn’t making sense. If your husband is in hospital, why isn’t he being bathed and changed by care workers? It would be unusual for family to have to do this.
Even having him at home, care workers are available for intimate care that would be awkward for siblings to do. A mother changing a baby is not at all the same as changing an adult son.
Caring for someone in this condition is exhausting, and caregiver burnout is real. Just not sure why you’re doing what you say you’re doing.
NTA for needing help.
It is because we are from different locations. If care workers are doing it in your location my isn’t. thank you for your feedback.
Please do tell us where hospitals do not care for patients. I always like to expand my knowledge.
YTA for your Karma farm.
Info: if he’s in the hospital, why is a nurse not doing these things? Did they actually agree to TAKE CARE of him or just to visit with him?