throw away account cause i don’t want my roommate to see this
since i was a teenager i’ve always slept naked. i always get too hot at night and its just generally way more comfortable for me to sleep that way. whenever i leave my room i’m always dressed, or at the very least have shorts or something on if i’m going to/from the shower. my roommate knows this and up to this point has had no problem with it and we always knock on each others doors anyway to be polite.
the issue started when he brought over his girlfriend to stay a couple nights. we all get along pretty well and have all hung out a few times before, but this was the first time she had come over and spent the night. we had all gone out drinking and got home pretty late so once we all walked in we just went straight to sleep. i, of course, went to bed with my usual routine of getting naked and hopping in bed. well, sometime during the night my roommate’s girlfriend needed to use the bathroom, but she didn’t know which room it was. my room and the bathroom are right next to each other and she opened my door by mistake. i have a vague memory of her opening my door, but i was half asleep and when she closed it i went right back to sleep. the next morning i woke up and my roommate and his girlfriend were upset with me because when she walked in she saw everything and she was mad i would sleep naked when a guest was over in the first place. they both said i need to start wearing clothes to sleep since my roommate’s girlfriend is gonna probably be sleeping over more often and it makes her uncomfortable. my argument was that i’m in my own private space away from them and that while i understand it was a mistake, it’s still her fault that she walked in on me sleeping.
its been a few days and my roommate still won’t let it go. i still sleep naked, and now once on purpose he’s walked in on me sleeping just to see if i was naked or not. i don’t really care about him seeing me naked cause we’ve seen each other naked before, but this is getting really out of hand. i don’t think i should have to wear clothes to sleep just because it makes his girlfriend uncomfortable even though i’m in my own private room.
tl;dr my roommate’s girlfriend walked in on me sleeping naked in my own room and now they both want me to start wearing clothes to sleep
edit: to everyone saying i should lock my door or add a lock, i would really like to. unfortunately the place we’re staying at doesn’t want us to change the door handles or anything so i can’t do that. however i am currently looking into ways to stop my door from opening that isn’t like a barricade or that drills into the door/wall
I love how the implication here is that she is gonna keep seeing you naked. Like girl how many times are you gonna “accidentally” open this person’s bedroom door before you learn where the bathroom is? Does your roommate know you shower naked too? 🤭
Edit* because I’m a forgetful bitch: NTA. Not even close. Holy shit.
I’d be more concerned about roommate saying gf will be staying over more frequently. Will she be paying rent? Utilities?
Edit: NTA That should be a one time mistake. She now knows where the bathroom is.
I’m really sorry but your roommate purposefully opening the door on you while you sleep TO SEE IF YOU ARE NAKED is lowkey sexual harassement. His girlfriend has no business whatsoever dictating how you sleep, in your own goddamn room. Also I’m really sorry but they can’t just announce “well she’s technically gonna live here with us so you better dress up in three layers for the night” – that needs a discussion, that needs sitting down and asking “are you okay with this?” you’re not being indecent so NTA all the way
yeah if my housmate had done that to me there would be hell to pay. it’s such a breach of boundaries
And how often are *they* naked behind your roommate’s door? Would *they* appreciate a late night check? NTA
OP should insist on a zero nakedness policy for the entire dwelling. “If I can’t be naked in my bed, neither can you”
No nudity in your room. Got it.
So they’re not having sex when she comes over, right? Maybe you should start walking in on them to check.
Also, how exactly did she manage to see that you were completely naked? How hard was she looking into the darkened room that clearly wasn’t the room she wanted? Did she ever apologise for the invasion of your privacy?
NTA
I like this answer the most.
This 💯. Agreed, how long/hard was she staring? It should have been easy to tell your room wasn’t the bathroom. If anything you should have told them you felt violated at her staring so long to see you bare.
OP needs to flip the switch to
“I feel violated and unsafe in my own home” or
“Your girlfriend violated my privacy and I am thinking of getting the police involved” or
“if your girlfriend will be upset about how I live in my own house, she should stop coming over”
Not only the gf. The room mate is now hoping to see op naked.
yes, yes, because why is he now entering without knocking
So the roommate and his girlfriend are obviously sleeping together, which means they are both getting naked in the apartment, and are spending a prolonged period of time staying naked. What hypocrites
Walk in on them while they’re having sex and then tell them they can’t be naked in his bedroom. See how they like being told what they can and can’t do in his room