I (19f) work part-time and study full-time. My cousin(f33) has a daughter that’s about to turn 15 and a boy that turned 10 in September. I got the boy I decent gift, I got him a baseball board game + baseball cards, totaling to slightly under $100. For my niece I am in charge of her last doll but she requested a Stitch plush instead so I got her a jumbo one from Build-a-Bear which cost me about $180 after taxes and shipping expenses. I also made her a flower and money Bouquet with $75, and I chipped in $200 for her party tent that costed $3500. Now I am receiving backlash from my family for not "loving" my niece and nephew the same. My family has always favored the boys since there is only 3 girls born into the family so I wanted to help make my nieces quince special for her. Am I wrong for favoring her more? I know my nephew gets spoiled by the rest of the family in a way she doesn’t so to me it feels like I have the right to favor her the way I was never favored.
The great thing about the age difference is that you can just say “when you’re 15 we’ll do something cool together” and leave it at that. Plus it’ll probably be forgotten by then anyway. If you were favoring the younger kid it might be a little stickier.
I would 10000% remember if my aunt promised to do something special for a landmark birthday like my sibling was getting, and never followed through. Like, that shit is toxic.
Other than that, totally agree