Basically, I got into an argument with my ex bsf. I was being nice to my friend’s ex because all I knew about him was that he was struggling a lot mentally, but she interpreted it as me being shady. I was upset with how she handled that situation bc I get rlly badly triggered with struggling people bc I have an older sibling who has been through a LOT and its just a sensitive topic. She was very dismissive when I tried to explain context and went to say stuff like "it was weird no matter the intent, i knew he was struggling but didnt treat him like that" it just hurt me a lot cause she knows struggling people is a really sensitive subject to me. Anyways, no matter how much I was trying to explain, she just kept shutting my explanations down and it just felt rlly hurtful. i told her i needed space, and then 3 days after that, something incredibly traumatized happened in my house and it just shook me a lot. 3 weeks after the initial argument, I finally reached out again to her and reconciled, but she ended up cutting me off recently because I wasnt there for her when she was struggling during those weeks and i took too long to clear up the misunderstanding. I understand that she mustve felt abandoned when I took the space, but its also making me a little sad that all the miscommunication got blamed on me when it felt like she was shutting me down when i tried to explain my pov. She also knew that event happened, and she just seemed to brush it off when i told her how heavily impacted i was by it and just focus on the fact i took space. i did reach out to ask if she was okay and told her i still cared during those 3 weeks bc i saw her repost sad tiktoks and she just responded with "im good, thanks for asking" anyways is it valid that i took space?
NTA. You tried to help her, and be there for you, and she clearly did not want that. And then when you didn’t give it to her, when you took your space, she turned it around on you. She does not seem like a good friend to you, and if I were you, I would not have contact with her any more than necessary.
Take all the space you want.
NTA, take your space. This person doesn’t sound like a very good friend.