I (14m) is someone who tries to be nice and help others, but a large amount of my classmates dislikes me for easily loosing focus and distracting them when I try to regain focus.
In the beginning of the school year, our science teacher gave us a group project to make blueprints for a attefallshus (a small house you don’t need a permit for (unless I misunderstood my teacher)). My friend Larry (not his real name) got grouped up with a girl called Amy (not her real name) and some other girl. Something about Larry is that he doesn’t lie, he over exaggerates, but he doesn’t lie. So when with 2 lessons remaining untill we have to be done, Larry said that he has done 80% of the work and that when he told Amy to do something that they needed to do at home she refused (which sounds like Amy). We have 1 hour and 50 minutes of school time remaining for this, and in those minutes, they need to do everything they haven’t done AND wright a report about this in 1 hour and 50 minutes. Later I told Amy that she should work on their attefallshus otherwise she, Larry, and the other girl in their group would probably fail or get a weak E if they wright a really good report. Then she got mad, said "since when do you care" since we both dislikes eachother, and that I was rude. I don’t know how I was rude by trying to help 3 of my classmates. So yeah, am I the ass hole? And if I am, explain why.
INFO what was your part in this project?
I was in another group and was making spreadsheets of every material my group had.
NTA for standing up for your friend. What Larry want? Be friends with the girls or get good grades?
Anyway, he need to decide.
I would be petty. I would do the project myself and wont give credit for the girls. Or at least tell the teacher that Amy didn’t do anything.
But its me not Larry.
A gentle YTA. I understand you were trying to help your friend. However, this was not your group, and it’s not your responsibility to tell Amy to pull her own weight. If Larry is/was unable to get her cooperation, he should have spoken to her and then to the instructor. Amy rightfully felt it was none of your business, and the situation was made worse by the fact that you and Amy dislike each other.
You had good intentions, but you were out of your lane.
Larry needs to have a talk with the teacher, not you with Amy.
Gentle YTA because you are not in their group. If Larry and the other girl have an issue with Amy’s lack of participation in the project, *they* need to be the ones to address it with her or take it up with the teacher, not you.
>but a large amount of my classmates dislikes me for easily loosing focus and distracting them when I try to regain focus.
Have you been evaluated for ADHD? You might have ADHD predominantly inattentive type.
Yeah, I got diagnosed with ADHD and Autism last year
NTA.