So my friend has wanted a bf for a long time and recently started dating this guy, let’s say his name is Eric. Eric told my friend that she “isn’t grateful” that he takes her out to eat because she never makes his lunches for him for work.
When she told me what he said I told her that Eric is a complete dick. I’m wondering now if me saying that makes me an ass.
Thoughts?
Nah. Eric IS a dick.
Nta. Seems like an accurate description of his behavior.
I mean, there’s not a lot of info to go on here. But if you think Eric is truly being a dick, you’re NTA for saying that to your friend. Especially since this sounds like a new relationship.
NTA I hope your friend dumps him, soon.
By him saying that he is seeing the relationship as transactional NTA
NTA but be prepared to lose your friend. Sometimes you have to let a situation run its course or you risk pushing away a friend and getting embroiled in their relationship drama.
Are you both in high school?
College but Eric is not
NTA, calling a spade a spade is normal.
Totally tactless, but NTA territory.
partial NTA.
You are concerned for your friend but there is a better way to address the issue and phrase things. Just calling him a dick is gonna put her in defensive mode (she’s wanted a bf for a long time and probably doesn’t want to let go of him). I would apologize to her for calling him a dick but then I would tell her that you are concerned and don’t like the way he is talking about her. He can make his own lunches. lol
relationship are not transactional. Him taking her out for dinner doesn’t mean he is owned labor from her.
you are NTA. who else is going to tell her?
O lord please don’t tell me they’re living together already. How else would she make his lunches? and he’s her first boyfriend?