For context, I’m a junior in high school and so are my friends, but the girl that likes her is a freshman. Using fake names for privacy reasons.
I was at a soccer game with my friend Sarah(F14) when she told me that her friend Riley(F14) has a crush on my friend’s gf Stacy(F17) and was wondering if Stacy had a gf, after I informed her that she does, Riley proceeded to freak out over the phone with Sarah. Apparently Riley had sparked up a conversation with Stacy over social media out of the blue, and Stacy had messaged back in a polite way, making Riley assume she didn’t have a gf. I’m good friends with Stacy’s girlfriend, Megan(F18), and felt like it was right to tell Meganf about this crush, I didn’t think much about the infatuation since Riley is a freshman. Megan confronted Stacy about her conversing with Riley over social media and consequently Stacy confronted Riley about her having a crush on her. Now Riley is upset with Sarah for spreading her business and my friends are telling me I’m in the wrong for telling Megan about the crush in the first place. I didn’t think much about telling Megan since I just thought it was a silly crush but now this has evolved into something much bigger. I apologized to Riley because she expressed feeling embarrassed about her feelings being spread but whenever I was apologizing she refused to admit her feelings for Stacy in the first place. I just need some clarity on this situation, am I the asshole?
One day, you will learn that shit-stirrers are the worst kind of people.
YTA
Honestly, yeah, YTA; you and Sarah. There wasn’t any need to spread Riley’s business, the whole ordeal could have ended when you told Riley that Stacy was taken. Stacy nor her GF needed to know that information; what other outcome did you expect to come out of it? What had you expected Stacy and her GF to do other than get upset with Riley for natural emotions? What did you expect Megan to do with the information?
Usually crushes die once you find out that the person you like is taken; the crush could have died quietly, but in spreading Riley’s business, Riley now has to kill the crush in a very public manner.
The only instance in which you should have told Megan anything is if Stacy was actively cheating. Politeness doesn’t equal that, so you also stirred unnecessary drama in their relationship as well. Overall, yeah, very shitty thing to do.
YTA. This is why children shouldn’t have Reddit. People get schoolyard crushes all the time. If it’s not reciprocated, you ignore it and move on. It also has nothing to do with you
YTA
Someday you’ll learn that keeping your mouth shut is a pretty valuable skill. Do not get involved in things that aren’t your business. There is nothing here that says Riley’s “silly crush” was an actual threat to anyone’s relationship; she was asking about someone’s relationship status. I hesitate to say YTA because you’re so young, but you definitely stirred a pot that didn’t need it.
yta. this was very easily avoidable and all i can say is hopefully youll learn from this
I know this is annoying to hear, but you are all still children and working out how to deal with life stuff. One thing l hope you have learned is not to get officiously involved in other people’s life stuff.
YTA
Not spreading gossip is a free action.
YTA, grow up five years and stop watching relationship drama bullshit on TV and maybe you’ll grow out of this.
YTA. You inserted yourself where you didn’t belong. Nobody was cheating, crossing boundaries, or being inappropriate – you just passed along gossip. If your involvement made every single person’s situation worse, that’s your answer.
YTA. Not only was it none of your business, but you also outed someone. That’s a huge dick move. You never out someone—that’s their story to tell.
This is what happens when you stick your nose in other people’s personal business.
You had no good reason to get involved in that situation.
You should have told Sarah, “She’ll have to ask Stacy about that” *and stayed out of it.*
YTA.