I (37F) have a 9 year old and a 7 year old with my husband (37F). My sister has two kids who are 8 and 5. Last time they visited us, my sister older son was in my 9 year old’s room, and he has a shelf of Lego’s he’s built with my husband over the years.
I don’t know how, but apparently my sister’s son knocked a few of the builds over. I swept up the Legos and was sure most pieces I had found. But my son was still so sad about it. My husband told me he would rebuilt it at a later time, and told me not to do anything because he thought I’d screw up.
A few days back I decided to try and rebuild at least 1. But I actually *did* mess up the rebuilding and think I might have misplaced a few pieces. My husband got so upset when he found out, and i get that but i thought that him giving me the cold shoulder and being short with me was a bit much. Over a 90 dollar lego set. I told him he was overreacting and that didn’t do anything to diffuse the situation, and my son is still kind of upset about it. I don’t understand why my husband doesnt just buy a new one and they rebuild it.
AITa?
so why didn’t you just leave it alone?
Soft YTA. He asked you to leave it. You didn’t and made the situation worse. It may seem small to you, but to him and son it means something.
ATA
1- he was not happy your sister kids tore up something he and his son built.
2- you took away him rebuilding it with his son and admit losing pieces somehow, and sound really dismissive of what he was proud doing with it boy by saying just buy a new one.
YTA
“My husband told me he would rebuilt it at a later time, and told me not to do anything because he thought I’d screw up.”
So you did it anyway and fucked it up
Even if he’s overreacting, YTA for saying that. Apologize and say that you will leave it up to him to fix. Minimizing your spouse’s feelings is never a good idea.
And your husband is not alone, many people have strong feelings about Lego.
$90 for legos isn’t cheap. And it gets more expensive than that. YTA I think you should’ve left it alone or got your own set to try.
YTA for several reasons, in your own version of events. Perhaps next time protect your children’s space, and when you’re asked to leave it, LEAVE IT.
YTA
” I don’t understand why my husband doesnt just buy a new one and they rebuild it.” .. YOU need to do that.
YTA. He told you not to and you did it anyway and screwed it up like he said you would.
I don’t even have to read much more then the first sentance… some Lego sets are super expensive so yes losing some and acting like it’s not a big deal would make YTA to me, you are invalidating his feelings.
YTA.
It’s clearly not about the Legos. To you they’re just plastic blocks, but to your husband and son, it’s something they did together that they’re proud of and you’re just dismissing their feelings because it’s not how you feel.
Your son’s entitled to feel sad that his cousins damaged his stuff. Then your husband specifically said not to touch it because he was worried you’d make it worse… and you just went and did it anyway, proving him right.
You owe them both an apology and a new Lego set.
You can go on the LEGO website and order the missing pieces. They are very helpful. But that isn’t the point. Those builds were something your husband and son did together. Your trying to mess with it totally missed the point and was exactly what you were asked NOT to do. I’d be very unhappy with you myself in the same situation.
YTA—do you not know how to listen or value your husband’s feelings?