My brother brought home a dog a few months ago. It was not my idea to bring the dog home, in fact I was against the idea because we already have two cats that get scared of new people/animals.
She is taken inside and put into a dog crate during the night to sleep. Every morning around 6am my mum lets the dog outside to pee. The issue is instead of bringing her back inside afterward she leaves her outside and the dog barks loudly for a long time.
This has been happening pretty much every morning for weeks. Where we live there’s a noise curfew until 7am on weekdays and 9am on weekends and I am worried that a neighbour will eventually complain. I also work night shifts so by the time she lets the dog out I’ve only had about 2-3 hours of sleep before the barking wakes me up. Mum told me to get used to it.
This morning after being woken up I told her you should probably not let the dog out until at least 7 or 8 because of sound curfews and a neighbour might eventually complain if its every morning. She got angry at me for saying that because "I was telling her what to do" and claimed she was barking because of a kookaburra outside that got her excited.
From my perspective its not really about the kookaburra, the barking happens every morning and its waking me up and could potentially annoy the neighbours too.
AITA for saying something about it?
NTA.
Asking someone to abide by rules of common sense and respect doesn’t count as “telling them what to do”.
What she is doing is quite inconsiderate to your resting time. That’s enough for you to consider moving out, if you can. In any case, let her deal with whatever problems come from complaining neighbors.
NTA for telling her, but she is worse for bringing home a dog she is not prepared to look after properly . The poor thing is caged all night and then just chucked outside alone . I was surprised by the kookaburra reference, we Australians don’t usually cage ( crate) dogs..
Why has she not got a dog door ? When you say ‘taken inside’ at night , do you mean she is left outside alone all day ? Shame on you both, get that dog rehomed somewhere she is loved.
This dog is not OPs dog and she is trying to tell her parent to take care of it- the shame does not belong on her.
Crating can be a great thing when done well to give dogs a safe space. It’s especially helpful in the case that the animal is ever sick or injured and needs to be limited, if they already feel safe in a crate it makes the experience much less traumatic
crating should honestly be more normalised here tbh. I think it would help a lot of issues that dogs have here when left alone in small apartments (if done properly ofc.) we have a dog in a building near us that goes off the moment their owner is out of the house. drives us nuts it’s sunup to sundown. pretty sure if the damn thing was crated and trained properly for the crate to be its happy place it’d stfu.
sounds like here, it’s just to keep it out of the way and stop it from being underfoot. not the right thing to do at all.
we crate trained our dog and kids. the crate is the dog’s bedroom and when the dog goes there, the kids were to leave the dog alone.
NTA, the dog should not be allowed to bark for that long. If my dog barks once he is brought inside. Id recommend your brother walk the dog in the morning, seeing as its his.
She thinks you’re TA because you were “telling her what to do?”
Info: Has your mom surpassed her twelfth birthday yet?
Obviously NTA. That dog deserves a better living situation though.
Your mom sucks, def TA and that dog is definitely unhappy. Your fam needs to do better all around and you should move out
I am trying really hard to move out. It’s just so expensive but its my goal this year.
nta. your mother is being inconsiderate of not only you, but everyone else in the neighbourhood. call in an anonymous tip to complain about the noise. maybe that would finally get her to stop.
Curious about everyone’s ages and who is paying bills and whatnot. Brother brought home the dog- so why isn’t he in the hot seat about the dog not being cared for? If he’s not going to care for it and mom is only willing to do less than the minimum why did everyone allow this to happen/continue?
NTA
Your neighbors are already complaining- just not directly to you.
This doesnt sound like a good situation for the dog. Maybe your brother would be open to learning to train his dog? It isnt really Mom’s responsibility if its your brother’s dog (although I agree that she’s being inconsiderate to you and your neighbors by allowing the dog to bark incessantly). Dogs (much like people) have needs- exercise/outside time obviously, but they also need mental stimulation, bonding with their people, play time, etc etc. A dog that is bored (usually not enough mental stimulation) will always find ways to entertain themselves- barking, digging, destroying things, usually. Your family does not seem to understand that a dog is not a *thing* you can just put in a crate until you feel like paying attention to it. Crate training is great, but only when it’s used properly. It is not doggie storage.
OP, you are definitely NTA, but your fam sucks for not being prepared to care for a dog.
We moved to the suburbs of Brisbane from the country with a barking dog and no one complained. But they did feed the dog meat poisoned with rat poison and killed it.
NTA
Maybe you could get the neighbors to say something or have call animal control so your mom realizes the barking doesn’t just bother you, it bothers everyone. I’ve had MANY neighbors who leave their dogs outside 24/7 & don’t stop them from barking. It’s infuriating! If your mom & brother aren’t going to be responsible owners, then they don’t need a dog.