I (15m) and my brother (18m) were eating dinner when my mother decided we needed to have perfect manners for the meal. For reference there was nothing special about said dinner, no guests or such. My brother at the end of the meal fed the dog a spare fry(usually acceptable in our house), to which my mother took great offense to. She promptly grounded him for a week to which he disagreed with, so she decided to charge him a hundred bucks. This was apparently from her paying his car insurance, though she has never asked for money back and it is a family car. I also disagreed to which we got called disrespectful little shits. I think this is unacceptable behavior as both an adult and parent but don’t know, thanks for reading.
Ps: My brother works a job in the summer and is in his senior year so he isn’t just being a bum.
Nta but im confused as why she was so offended abt giving the dog a single fry
I bet she wasn’t and that she was only using this as an excuse to grt money out of her children.
NTA your mom is clearly having a mental break or something.
Your mom is mentally ill
What is wrong with your mother? Nta
Wow!! NTA and you are living with a scary level of crazy! I’m so sorry. Perhaps you can emancipate early and move in with your brother.
I feel like the fry wasn’t the issue. Maybe the fact she brought up paying his car insurance could be more of an indication of what the root cause is. The fry wasn’t the whole problem, just the thing that made her break. The straw that broke the camels back if you will NTA.
NTA
There’s something wrong with your mother. I’m not being rude, but unless this extreme behavior is normal for her, there’s something up with her. A calm conversation needs to be had.
ETA Judgement
NTA.
I do not know your mom, or your home situation, but, as a mom, I also have had little metal explosions and they were almost never ‘just’ about the issue at hand. Most of the time it was the last straw, so maybe things were happening before this that you didn’t notice?
Maybe you could have a chat with her when things calm down?
Your brother is a few months from graduating and going off to college or work. She is freaking out because she is about to lose control of him and is lashing out because of it.
She probably isn’t aware she is doing it.
Your mother is upset with him for something else and using any given opportunity to show him who’s boss. Yeah, it’s dick behaviour and I would encourage your mother to learn about teenage brains. They can be managed successfully for everyone involved once some education has been given.
Definitely NTA. Your mother is crazy
NTA. Charging your brother for giving the dog a fry is wild. It’s literally a snack, not destruction of property. Grounding for a week is already overkill. money on top of that is insane. Your mom’s overreacting hard.
NTA. Grounding and charging $100 over one fry is wild especially if it’s usually allowed. This feels way more like a power move than a lesson