I live in a 4 person apartment and we each have an individual lease, but my dog is on my lease and is the only dog living in the apartment. Prior to signing the lease and moving in I had a conversation with my roommates about if they were okay living with a dog since I have a 70 lb one. Everyone was good with the arrangement and there was no issues for a little while. They already knew from meeting him, but I had made them aware that my dog is anxious and is easily worked up which has caused him to get sick numerous times. He is friendly with other dogs if he meets them, but gets anxious if he cannot see them. He also does not like small dogs because he was attacked by one when he was a puppy.
This situation started with said roommate (we’ll call her Sally) bringing her bf’s dog over (who is a 65 lb pup). Sally never once asked any of the roommates about this nor gave anyone a heads up. I mentioned numerous times about wanting to have the two dogs meet in a neutral territory if she was going to let her bf bring him over, but she often dismissed it until one day I got home and his dog was here so I told her we were taking them outside to meet. Since then the two dogs have been fine when he is over.
Sally later decided to watch her coworkers dog for a day or two without asking or any heads up as well. This dog was a small shih tzu who HOWLED in its crate all day while Sally was gone. My dog was getting super anxious so I took him to a doggy day play camp so he would not get sick.
Now Sally is having her friend’s dog come over frequently while they hang out on certain week nights. This dog is also a small white shih tzu looking dog but is not as loud, and my dog only got nervous when he smelled the scent of her in the main area. It was not bad until tonight, Sally and her friend left the dog here while they decided to go somewhere. The dog was barking and scratching at the door for a good amount of time and got my dog super worked up.
I feel as though it is disrespectful, especially having been told that it makes my pup anxious and sometimes even sick yet she continues to do it. I do not know what to do anymore. I can get not asking about having friends over or doing what you want, as we all pay to live here, but I feel as though dogs are different. I am not trying to be her mother and tell her what she can and cannot do in any way shape or form, I’m just trying to look out for my pup. I asked her if she could limit other dogs coming here and give a heads up if they are from now on and she did not even apologize just said she’d give a heads up in the future. AITA in this situation and what should I do?
NTA. If the dog isn’t on the lease then it has no business not being discussed by all the tenants.
You moved into a pet friendly place with three other people. You can’t control if there’s pets there.
It’s on you to work with your dog and socialise him.
I would take issue with housemate having a noisy pet or one destroying the house however I don’t see an issue with them having another animal in the house.
What would you do if they went and got their own dog?
YTA
My dog was taken to training and socializing classes for a year. He is not mean, just anxious with random dogs in his space who are not on the lease. Dogs are territorial of their homes sometimes whether or not they are friendly. He is perfectly fine meeting other dogs outside but I do not want to risk him getting territorial because a random dog is in his house. My roommate has not ever offered to do that prior to bringing the other animals into the house.
Yeah, but the other people that live there did not gets pets and add them to the lease. If they did get pets and add them to the lease her dog would be fine once proper introductions were made. This is one roommate just bringing random dogs over all the time. Guess who will get the blame if one of the random dogs damages the apartment? NTA
Any dog not on the lease should not be in the apartment unless all 4 tenants agree beforehand. Who is responsible for the damage the dog caused scratching the door?
NTA
INFO did you communicate this info about your dog being anxious / unable to be around other dogs before you moved in? It seems to me possible that you moved into a house that was very dog friendly and did not communicate your dog’s needs beforehand
NTA I think. You communicated your dog’s issues so if she is having dogs over, she can strike a small compromise by introducing them like you said or informing everyone prior.
I think a simple heads up would be appropriate. A little respect goes a long way. And you just never know with dogs. NTA. Just because everyone pays to be there doesn’t mean you have to disregard simple requests.
NTA. The only dog that should be there is your’s since he’s on the lease.
NTA have everyone agree no visiting dogs are allowed in the apartment unattended. That’s not OK. I’m surprised your neighbors haven’t called management yet.
NTA. What she’s doing it not only rude to you, it’s harmful and stressful for all the dogs involved.
You’re not asking much–a meet and greet with visitor dogs on neutral ground should be standard operating procedure for *all* dog owners, any dogsitting should be run by *all* roommates, and leaving a random dog there while going out is just a pure asshole move generally.
NTA. ITS WEIRD TO TAKE YOUR DOG TO SOMEONE ELSES HOUSE. These entitled “I don’t go anywhere without my dog” dog owners are annoying AF. Your dog belongs at home.
And then to leave them there when you go out?? I’ve owned dogs my whole life, and that is genuinely baffling to me.