My cousin is engaged, and her fiancé’s stepbrother is admittedly a very attractive man. My cousin really dislikes him and has made it clear she doesn’t want anything happening between us. She gets upset even if I’m just polite to him, so I’ve been trying to keep my distance.
She asked me to come on a trip with her and her future in-laws for support. One night, I decided to use their hot tub. I thought I would be alone but after a while the stepbrother decided he wanted to use it too. I panicked because I knew my cousin would be angry if she found out we were in there together, even if nothing happened.
I asked him not to get in, told him I wanted to be alone, but he didn’t care. Without thinking, I blurted out that I had peed in the hot tub. It was obviously a lie, but it worked and he left.
The next morning, he told his dad I “peed in the hot tub” in front of everyone. He definitely knew I was lying so I don’t know why he’d embarrass me like that and I was too mortified to even say anything.
My cousin is furious and says I made her look bad in front of her future in‑laws. I told her I only said it because I was trying to avoid being alone with him for her sake, but she says this was worse and I should’ve just let him use the hot tub.
AITA?
nah the hot tub lie was chaotic but honestly kind of genius.. the real issue is your cousin putting you in an impossible position. she cant ask you to manage her insecurities and then blame you for how you survive them.
**(ESH)**
Sounds like your cousin is trying to keep him in reserve for herself. YTA for not being able to stand up for yourself with your cousin.
He probably did that because you lied to his face. What in the actual hell is that dynamic? Your cousin seems to have a problem and you seem to be enabling that. Getting mad because you are polite to someone? Why would you let her dictate your actions and life?
YTA for the whole situation
YTA and so is your cousin.
INFO: why does she get upset when her fiances stepbrother is even polite to you?
Because everyone in this story is a teenager.
YTA and that’s why he told- because you deserve to be embarrassed. You don’t own the space so you to be selfish like that is crazy. You should have at least been honest and said you wanted time alone
OP: “Without thinking, I blurted out that I had peed in the hot tub.”
Me: “Good, ’cause I gotta go also!” (Splash)
ESH except the step-brother
What in the heck did I just read?
1 – why is your cousin such a psycho about you and the stepbrother? Like…extreme??
2 – why do you take the responsiblity of carrying on her issue? You all are family, she is marrying into his family and you have to shun him every time he comes near?
3 – You lie that you peed in the hot tub, in a way that he knew it was a lie…that was probably kind of hurtful. The hot tub is not yours, anyone can climb in if they want and you basically told him to get lost? He’s innocent in all of this and your being a massive b towards him?
Wow.
Turnabout is fair play, you lied about peeing in some else’s hot tub, he called you out on it. What’s the problem? Why did you think it was okay for you to lie, yet no okay for him to call you out on it, in front of the people who allowed you to be their guest in their house? Now you just made a ton of work for those people to clean out the hot tub. Do you honestly, think they will believe that you didn’t pee in the hot tub after you already lying about it once? I wouldn’t.
Why would ur cousin care if yall got together? Unless she trying to keep a plan B. Tell her to screw off
YTA. How on earth did you imagine that was going to end?
You could have simply said, “Oh, enjoy – I’m just getting out” and left.
You could also, y’know, not allow your cousin to dictate your life.
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Edited typo
ESH, you and all the adults are acting like kids
Why is your cousin dictating who you can and cannot be around?