I haven’t talked to my father much in the last year after an unrelated incident. I can explain if needed, but I am trying to keep it brief.
A few years ago, a close family friend and one of my biggest art inspirations passed away. I use his work as examples for most of my art assignments. I posted a picture of something I made for my class and he commented on it, letting me know there is an upcoming exhibit for him in our town. He invited me to go with him and said he is trying to get my brother to go, as well. I told him I would love to go as long as my brother went, too. I wanted him there to dilute any frustration towards my dad. He said he would reach out.
I am super close with both of my brothers and we have a very active group chat. I messaged my little brother about it multiple times, as I was excited, and asked him a few days ago when we are going. He said maybe this weekend, but he didn’t know yet.
He sent a picture in the group chat today of him at the museum. I was extremely hurt. I have been following up, very excited, and thought it might have been my dad trying to make things better. They went without me after inviting me.
I messaged my dad saying “What the heck?” He replied with “I’ll take you to this show if you like. I’m definitely going to come back a few times.” I said “I hope you understand how this is hurtful.”
He responded with “Nope. But what you said is hurtful. So leave me alone.”
My brother messaged me saying I was a jerk for texting my dad when they are trying to enjoy the art, they weren’t attacking me, and I was being “kinda fucking annoying tbh.”
I sent two text messages. I don’t think I was being rude and my feelings are very hurt. AITH?