My brother recently decided he is on a self improvement grind. For the past two weeks, his alarm has been a loud motivational speech about discipline, success, and waking up at 5 AM to “outwork everyone else.” The problem is, he does not wake up to it. I do. It goes off every single morning at 5 AM and plays for five straight minutes while he snoozes it again and again.
I asked him multiple times to change it to something quieter, but he said the speech is “part of his mindset” and that I should respect his routine. This morning after five minutes of someone yelling about success and hustle, I got up and turned his phone completely off. He slept through his class and when he woke up he was furious.
Now he says I sabotaged his personal growth and disrespected his goals. I feel like I just wanted to sleep. AITA?
NTA. Waking up others with your alarms is annoying asf, especially when it’s some bullshit motivational speech alarm.
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He’s mad at you for disrespecting his goals, yet he can’t even respect his own goals by getting up on time. Maybe the “you hit snooze you lose” approach will be good for him! 🤣
NTA if he keeps snoozing it
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Clearly it’s not particularly motivating and a big AH move on his podcast bro behalf
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I’m not saying it seems to be an essential part of hustle-bro “culture” to be completely rude and thoughtless to everyone who has to share space with you, but I’m not *not* saying it.
Info: Are you physically sharing a room?
NTA. You have goals too and I’m sure one of them is to get enough rest.
I wake up at 4:45 to a single beep of an iPhone standard alarm at half volume tell him he’s got a skill issue and he’ll never make it
Time to invest in a small but loud trumpet. Or a clarinet.
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Perhaps a vibrating alarm and less volume would work better.
And, if he doesn’t go to bed early enough, he will have difficulty waking.
Make your alarm bagpipes and set it to go off 5 minutes before his. Placing it under his pillow is optional.
If I can train my husband to wake up to one alarm instead of 2 hours of scheduled alarms that also get snoozed…. He can wake his ass up at the first sound of his dude bro “motivating” him. NTA.
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If he can’t wake up with a normal alarm in seconds, he is hopelessly inadequate.
Waking up at 5am doesn’t make you a better or more hardworking person. Sleep science indicates that it’s counterproductive to force your body into a time zone that isn’t right for you. Everyone has an innate preference for how much sleep and when that sleep should occur. For some people it’s deeply hardwired, for others it’s more malleable. The fact that he’s sleeping through this shows that his body is seriously rejecting 5am wake ups.
Anyway lol.
It probably would have been better if you woke him up to let him know you were turning off his phone. Then, it’s 100% his responsibility if he misses class. Still, I’ll say NTA. He should use a regular alarm clock that doesn’t disturb your sleep, and he can listen to his military affirmations on his AirPods as he gets ready for the day.