(20M) So this happened today, and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or not.
College ended and while I was packing my bag, I waited near my closest female friend because we usually walk out together and say bye. I stayed near the bags, then walked slowly in the corridor, and finally waited at the college gate all just to say a routine goodbye for the day.
But she was busy talking to a guy in class, then continued talking to him in the corridor, and then the two of them went to the college office together for some classrelated work. She never noticed I was waiting.
I wasn’t actually alone another close female friend was with me the whole time. But I still felt left out and honestly a bit stupid for waiting so long just for a simple “bye.”
Later I texted her, “I stayed near the bags, in the corridor and then at the college gate to say bye to you btw.” She apologized, said she didn’t know, and even tried calling me. I didn’t pick up because I was still upset and told her I was on the bus. She asked me to call back but I didn’t. Later she asked if I was upset, and I said “no, I’m alright,” even though I wasn’t.
Now I’m just sitting with this feeling of being hurt and wondering if I’m being dramatic. Am I the asshole for feeling upset about something this small?
Yes you are being dramatic. Sounds like you want her to be more than a friend.
YTA
She didn’t even know you where there, what was she to do ? Sense your presence ?
Do your y have a crush on this “closest female friend” ? Is that why we are so in our feelings about a missed “bye bye” ?
YTA YTA YTA. She didn’t ask you to wait around for ages “just to say bye.” And you aren’t owed a monopoly on her time and attention.
If you have feelings for this woman, you’re being really unfair by pretending to be her friend.