I’ve been asking my ex boyfriend for my bra and my jacket back since January 15th. he has been pushing it off due to him being busy. I ask what he’s busy with and he simply states "bull crap" not giving an explanation to what he means. I just tell him to get it to me when he has a few moments of free time. He typically says will do and nothing else. now that was January 26. I asked him on February 1st "do you think you can drop my stuff off after you get off work?"and he just reads my message. with that, I think he’s busy and I wait for him to get back to me within the day and when he didn’t, I figured it was a rough day so I stopped bugging for two days and I sent a final nice request of my clothes and he says he’s busy again. At this point I’m racking my brain about why he’s pushing it off and why he hasn’t just driven the 25 minutes to my house to drop my stuff off. he texts me saying he’s been really busy and he’s going to a funeral tomorrow and he won’t be back for a while.
I want my stuff before he leaves but I want to let him grieve. am I an arsehole?
NTA, but stop wasting your time. He threw your shit out. Move on.
That’s a possibility but I don’t think someone would just toss my stuff out when I have his jackets here.
Based on your other comment, you dated this person for two weeks. I seriously doubt they give two shits about you and is probably willing to take a loss on the jackets in order to never see you