My girlfriend (F21) asked what I wanted to do for my 25th birthday and offered to treat me to dinner. She also invited her parents since they were both off. Initially, I said I wanted to try something new, but after looking at a few spots, I wasn’t feeling any of them. I decided to stick with my two safe options: sushi or wings.
Since her parents work at a sushi bar and she doesn’t like sushi, I opted for wings at Buffalo Wild Wings
She immediately pushed back, asking, ‘But you’ve had that before; don’t you want something new?’ I told her I genuinely just wanted wings. She started sending links to other places, insisting she wanted something with rice and chicken. When I told her I wasn’t interested, she got mad, called me a ‘brat’ and ‘ungrateful,’ and even accused me of trying to manipulate her. She eventually brought up that I couldn’t afford the dinner I suggested myself. We didn’t talk for the rest of my birthday. My mom and grandma ended up getting me wings and a gift instead. She is still ignoring me, even at work.
NTA it’s _your_ birthday. This is weird of her, seems like she’s trying to fulfill her own ideas about what a birthday should be like.
NTA but it sounds like your gf doesn’t like you
NTA: The birthday person gets to decide what they want for their dinner normally, unless it’s something crazy expensive or someone has a allergy. Your girlfriend is being disrespectful to your wishes. Happy birthday 🎂 best wishes
NTA she’s the one being manipulative. It’s your birthday, you get to decide what to eat.
NTA.
It is YOUR birthday.
Also, punctuation, spacing, sentence structure. These unformatted walls of text are annoying to read.
Does OP even realize this is *all one sentence???* It’s ridiculous that this was written by someone in their 20s.
WTF, you are NTA. It’s your birthday! You choose where you want to go, not other people. I am so sorry this happened.
NTA – you should be able to have the dinner you want on your birthday. She’s being selfish and picked a fight with you. Consider if you really want to continue to deal with this behavior
nta, it’s literally your birthday???? i would consider this a talking point with your girlfriend. she’s trying to make YOUR BIRTHDAY about her and her needs, she needs to be told that isn’t okay, healthy communication is key
NTA, The manipulative thing that happened was she wanted to go to a new restaurant and masked it as a “gift” for your birthday. When things didn’t go her way, she turned it on you for not wanting what she wanted to eat for YOUR birthday.
Jiminy cricket, my dude. Learn how to use commas and periods, I’m begging you!
NTA but I feel it’s a huge red flag for someone to start calling you names when you disagree. So disrespectful.
my dude have you ever heard of punctuation?
Man, use even a single period. That is too much for one sentence.
But NTA. It’s a cheap move to ask someone what they want to do if there’s only one right answer.
I’m sure it would have turned out differently if you had suggested dinner, and then she said she’d love to try out these options and asked which one you’d prefer.
It’s cheating to ask someone what they want to do, then get mad because they didn’t want the *right* thing.