My boyfriend (35m) and I (47f) are going to drive from PA to FL to see his parents for a week. He will be driving but we’ll be using my car, I’ll be paying for gas, tolls and I’ll be making up for his week of lost wages since he won’t be at work.
He put in for his vacation days today and I got excited. I said I really hope we can stop at South of the Border! South of the Border is a cheesy tourist trap right at the border of NC and SC. It’s directly on 95, we will drive by it on our way down south. He said no, he doesn’t want to stop anywhere on the drive down. He wants to drive straight through with a cooler in the car, only stopping to pee when necessary.
I told him we don’t have to spend a lot of time there, maybe an hour to eat and look around. He still said no.
I feel really hurt. It’s a 19 hour drive and I’m only asking for one of those hours. I know it’s just a shitty highway stop but I love it there.
AITA for thinking his hard no is unreasonable?
Why in the world are you paying for gas and tolls, AND making up for his lost wages???? Wtf? And he refuses to pet you make a stop on the way??? Why are you even with this AH????
And going to see *his* parents! Girl this is embarrassing.
This literally makes no sense. You’re visiting HIS parents, but you’re paying all the travel costs and “making up for his week of lost wages” to visit HIS parents? I’m presuming you therefore won’t be losing a week of your own wages to visit HIS parents, but somehow have the money to reimburse him for his? Just don’t visit HIS parents at all, take your car on your own to whatever crappy road stop you want and let him pay for himself to visit HIS parents.
This! WTH???? Using her car, and she is paying for everything including his vacation time. So he can go see his parents….and this loser thinks he gets to have a say on ANYTHING???? This is wild or fake
Can’t imagine being this much of a doormat. I really hope its fake because it’s so sad otherwise
Have you considered taking him on as a full time trophy husband? You’ll still be giving him a car and an allowance, but the expectation will very clearly be that when you get home he’s there waiting and that he will decorate your arm at whatever damn tourist attraction you pick.
Current arrangement sounds like all the cost but none of the benefit, so I’m assuming OPs BF is an absolute god amoung men and well known celebrities are lining up to pay his expenses and walk red carpets with him. Either that or it’s just a sad, abusive relationship where OP’s lack of self esteem results in her supporting somebody who is well old enough to be able to support himself.
After reading this I’m not sure he is husband material
The tourist trap is the least of your worries in this relationship. Girl!
There is a trap but it’s not South of the Border…
Ummm….. you are paying for the trip, using your car, PAYING HIM HIS LOST WAGES, and he won’t stop where you want?
What is wrong with you?
You are an asshole for supporting someone who treats you this way. But not for thinking his hard no is unreasonable – it is. He is a jerk.
NTA
I cannot fathom a world where I’m paying for a man’s lost wages for a trip to visit his parents. Make it make sense!
Why are you paying for everything to visit HIS parents?
Read what you just wrote there and pose a better question: why am i treating him to a week of all expenses and salary paid to visit his folks? Nta for wanting a stop but seriously think about what’s happening here
I saw someone refer to this sub as the doormat Olympics and it’s so real. YTA to yourself because this is nonsense and you know it. You’re paying gas tolls and WAGES. This is your trip, why tf would you let anyone tell you you can’t stop where you want to stop…?