Just recently I bought sportswears, which quickly became my favorite. It includes a cropped hoodie and long garage pants. They are both plain beige in color, thick and loose in texture, plus they have fur inside. Worn together, they cover every inch of my body from my collar to my ankle. I plan to wear a shirt inside as well, since I don’t want to accidentally expose my tummy.
I happily showed them off to my boyfriend. We are in a LDR. He replied that it exposes the curve of my hips(if it’s relevant, i do not have big hips). He thinks that the designers created these clothes with malicious intent. He added that he would be hurt if I wore this outside, since other guys would be able to see my curve.
After arguing for some time(mainly about which clothes are categorized as revealing and which aren’t), he told me he didn’t want to talk about it anymore. After a week or so, I had to bring it up again. That time, he surrendered, saying that I can do whatever I want. But it will still hurt him if I went outside with those clothes.
AITA for wanting to wear a cropped hoodie, despite that he doesn’t like it?
Nta. He sure is though. This is how abusive and controlling behavior starts
RUN RUN AS FAR AS YOU CAN. God forbid you are a woman and naturally have curves. Tell him to go find a child since he is so threatened by your feminine features. That is no man, that is no partner. RUN FOR THE HILLS or you will be controlled for the rest of your life over what you wear, the makeup you use, etc….
Do not give him any power to dictate what you are allowed to wear… WEAR WHAT YOU WANT! Also RED FLAG!!! He is trying to make you feel bad about something you want to wear, as if it were about him, what’s next, you can’t go swimming because that would show your curves as well?
NTA
Do you seriously think you should be in a relationship where your clothes are policed?
NTA
I’m concerned that he finds sweatpants too revealing for his girlfriend to wear.
Yeah, could they show that she has — (gasp) — actual *limbs* under there!
Keep the hoodie. Lose the man.
NTA. Run away from this man. He’s trying to control you and this will only escalate. You’re in a LDR and he’s doing his best to put some measure of control over you from a distance. It will only get worse if you guys eventually move in or marry. You do not need permission to wear clothing you like.
NTA – Telling you what you can wear is controlling behavior and is usually the first step in an emotionally and or physically abusive relationship. Tell him he doesn’t get to dictate what you wear. I’d he reacts badly, you need to cut your losses, break up with him and block him everywhere.
Edit: typo
As a mother, I have to say please do not give in to what a partner wants you to wear. This is highly controlling.
Please find a relationship that helps you grow and thrive, that doesn’t force you to be someone else and choose things that someone else likes or ‘approves’.
I wish you happiness and hope you find confidence to stand up for yourself.
NTA, he’s controlling, get rid of him.
This will only get worse, keep the clothes and lose the abusive, red flag waving idiot
How dare you have a woman-shaped body under your clothes! The scandal!
Throw this one back to the Victorian Era where he belongs.
GIRL.