When looking for Christmas presents for my girlfriend I had an idea of something I wanted to do. It involved being quite artistic and creative which I am not so last month when my girlfriends family met up for a small get together, I asked her 16 year old could who is doing an art qualification if she’d help.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 years so I’ve known her family for a while and her cousin has joined us on days out, meals out etc so we get on well.
She agreed to help and said she’d have the gift ready for the next family catch up before Christmas. That was this weekend and it will be the last time the entire family get together until next year so we all exchanged Christmas presents.
As a thank you for her cousin helping, I bought her a small gift which I gave to her at the get together. Some of the other family members said it was weird that I’ve bought something for her and that I shouldn’t have done it.
Even after explaining why they still said it was suspicious. I pointed out three’s nothing wrong with what I’ve done but they wouldn’t back down on claiming I was wrong for doing it.
AITA for buying her a Christmas present?
NTA I understand why you bought the gift to show your appreciation. Maybe you should have waited until after to give it to her.
that was my other thought … maybe timing just wasn’t right
i’m hard core voting NTA but still can’t help but wonder what the gift was?? maybe whatever it was is the reason they feel it was wrong?
It was a Nintendo switch game
NTA at alllll. I think it was so kind of you to do that and it says a lot about you as a person
That’s an ace thank you gift. It this cousin is a girl and you bought flowers and chocolates I’d think it was an odd choice, but still nice of you. But a game? Absolutely not! Definitely NTA
NTA, if you had a friend or family member that was a mechanic that helped fix your car and you got them a case of beer as a show of gratitude that’s perfect acceptable. Same with this, the cousin helped you with something outside your wheelhouse and you got her a gift of gratitude. Her family members may be being overprotective because she’s a teenager and you’re an adult which is a bit understandable but that doesn’t make you an AH for expressing gratitude.
NTA.
A small gift which some family members seems to feel is unsuitable. Mmm I wonder what you bought her. Or is it that they feel you have inadvertently changed the family culture by buying a gift outside the given parameters. Who knows?
I got her a Nintendo switch game