I moved out of my mom’s house at 20 because I just needed to be in my own space for my own good, we didn’t have terrible issues but it was hard living with her for sure. She and my dad split up when I was 2 then my dad got deported when I was 3, she was also super young so we both kinda grew up together. Fast forward to now she’s in a new relationship with a guy she hates, she knew she hated him and still ended up having my second sister (both are blessings and everything happened for a reason) but it really pissed me off. Before I moved out we were all living in this really bad unincorporated neighborhood in the inland empire, paying rent to my uncle in CASH (no history of paying rent in 7/8 years). Also my mom doesn’t have a real job besides home based hair cutting and nails, so she basically has no way to get approved for a house or an apartment if we even wanted to, despite the money. so I just feel frustrated because she always mentions my dad and asking him to help us buy a property when I feel like it’s HER responsibility to be a stable woman in this economy regardless like ????? and not to mention neither of them were able to help me get approved for either of my apartments or pay any rent / furniture or a bill… and my dad complains that I haven’t renewed my car insurance when my rent is 2.5k every 29 days like. Bruh
Mom because I can’t rely on my dad, he’s not our hero… I’ve grown to realize that we both put him on a pedastal and he really is not that person that we loved so much anymore, he offers me things in Mexico only and that all comes with the sacrifice of moving out here and he’s unrealistic for me, just like it was for you in the past. He’s also told me that it’s my responsibility to make a life for myself before which I totally agree with and I think it’s my responsibility just as much as it is yours to make a good living for ourselves. You and I are both able to work just as hard and make just as much money or even more, he’s not our resolution.. definitely not mine , especially after seeing how other men are attentive and helpful and make themselves useful, I just see my dad differently now. He’s never helped me pay rent in 2 years out of his own will, never sent you money every month for anything as I was growing up, it’s all a repeating pattern so I doubt he’ll have it in his heart to buy us a house now years later that he’s all used up and broke from his other family lol.