So this is a little hairy so I’ll try my best to be as considerate with as much info as possible. I was emancipated at 16 while graduating two years early. I had my first house, car, job and was in college while raising my child at this time. My mother was pissed about my sexual orientation (I’m gay) and the family treated me terribly back then. (They have all mostly come around by now).
That being said I rekindled what I had with my mother after my final (after being emergent emancipated overnight) emancipation hearing shortly before my 17th birthday. We were getting there. My Daddy (not bio dad) got cancer. I was with him near every day and he passed. My mother followed 31 days after with my aunt between them. I was 18. Shitty month really.
My mother had written a will before we got back to good keeping me out of her money which I found out much later and hurt not because of the money but just cause I was her only biological child. She left it to her mother, asshole brother and the best uncle ever. I found out my biological had been overpaying in child support for years and didn’t tell him as I was planning to correct it and make sure it got back to him. Which for the record he got back over 50k. But I legally was still owed back child support for 8k. That was for the year and a half I was emancipated. (He legally had to pay it.)
Instead of speaking with his sergeant I instead decided to bring it to a judge in court to decide what to do. I ended up getting a fantastic lawyer and being awarded the 8k. My father was then awarded the 50k back and the rest of my family got a couple hundred dollars that were left over from her last check.
EDIT: My father told me he no longer had to pay child support since my mother was dead. According to him it was no longer his problem or duty. And yes we are talking about a military member who served army and navy. And no he will no longer speak to me despite getting him back 50k. The lawyers said I could’ve easily said nothing and taken it but that wouldn’t be right.
(I would like to add that both my daddy and my mother were the most amazing people. They needed guidance sure but they made me the strong man I am today and I can’t wait to meet them in another life or in “heaven” if there is one. I regret nothing however)
AITA?
Nope! NTA. GET YOURS!!! Bc i wish i could get mine. My half sisters mom kept reporting him so hed do weekends catching up his balance technically.
honestly, it sounds like you did what was right for you. your dad might be salty, but it’s your money that was owed. like, he should’ve been aware of his obligations. keep your head up, you got through some tough stuff.
Thank you so much friend. I just… it’s been enough time and honestly I needed to get it out. My auntie won’t even talk to me because of it. Says I don’t reach out enough and it’s a two way street yet she doesn’t reach out and when I do she completely ignores me.
NTA. Your jeek of a dad should be grateful but at least you know not to bother with him.
Edit: There’s a typo but apparently it kept me out of trouble.
Honestly at this point I don’t think he’s worth it. He went sky diving with the family not long ago and included them but not me just like he’s done my whole life so…. But hey I have an amazing husband and beautiful children.
nta. u literally got the guy 50k back and only kept the 8k u were legally owed. thats actually more honest than most ppl would be tbh
I know. My grandmother helped me during the lawyer conversations and basically said we could keep the money and she would help me with it but I declined cause I didn’t feel it was… right I guess. He may be a huge dick but it was his money that he overpaid.
Once you were emancipated you wouldn’t have been entitled to ANY child support! Plus if he had overpaid, you still wouldn’t have been owed anything. That money wasn’t yours, it went to your mother to raise you. Once you claimed complete financial independence, child support wouldn’t stopped.
So YTA for making up a story that can’t even be real and any adult would know that!
OP for sure made up parts of story, but emancipated minors do still recieve child support, it goes directly to the minor and not a parent or guardian.
Source: I was an emancipated minor at 16, i recieved child support checks directly until I was 18.
So, at the age of 16, you already had a house, a car, a job, while you were going to college, AND raising a child as a gay parent?
I must be missing something, because this doesn’t really add up…
So by the age of 17 you had a house, car, job, family all while studying? But you also spent every day with your dying family because they also all had cancer? You do realise that all sounds reall implausible right?
YTA Made up story and if it’s somehow not you sound absolutely insufferable
YTA for writing this nonsensical tripe