For context. I met a guy in the psych ward lol. We hit it off and continued talking after getting out. He lives in a different state and I’ve gone to visit him multiple times. One of the visits we went to the concert of a band that I’m obsessed with. I have a list of bands that I absolutely must see before I die. He knows who is on the list but I never asked him to buy me tickets to any of them. He just did as a surprise. We went to my absolute favorites and had a blast but now things have gotten weird and I have been wanting to break things off. However, he also bought me tickets several months from now to my number 2 band on the list. Am I the asshole if I keep talking to him until after we go to the concert? I didn’t ask him to buy me these tickets, he just did. I’m worried the tickets are nonrefundable, should I just break it off with him beforehand anyway?
Tell him how you feel it’s not bad being honest about your feelings btw
Yes, YWBTA.
You’re describing a behavior known as USING a person. People who do this are assholes. If you do this, you will also be one. No, it does not matter if the tickets are non refundable.
He would feel much worse if you dumped him right after going to the concert, anyway. No one likes being used and then discarded.
YTA if you lead him on
YWBTA. End the relationship and don’t drag him along just because he got tickets to something. I’m sure he will find someone else to go with or give them to.
Yes, it’s called being honest. The feeling of being used sucks.
Yes, using people for personal gain is wrong… If you feel like things have gotten weird you need to be upfront about that… If you want to remain friends and so does he… Try that instead. You met him in the psych ward… He’s already got enough problems without someone he’s obviously super into screwing with his head. He doesn’t deserve that. Maybe he’ll take you to the show anyway… Maybe he’ll sell you the tickets… Maybe he’ll take someone else… If you really want to see the band and his tickets are off the table after you’re honest.. buy your own tickets.
Break before the concert, buy your own ticket or don’t go and yes you would be the ass if you waited to breakup after the concert.
YTA I think you have been leading him on and using him and really you both probably have healing to do so the best course of action is to be honest, and let him down gently.
YTA
Speaking from personal experience, not a great idea to date a guy you met in the psych ward.
YWBTA if you continue to lead him on purely so you can go to a concert. Just tell him how you feel and even ask if you can both remain friends but please don’t continue to lead him on for your own personal gain
YYWBTA, but, also, where the respect for YOURSELF in this?
And don’t worry about whether they are refundable, of course they aren’t, that’s what resale sites are for.
YTA. Go back to therapy and leave this poor dude alone. Even if the tickets are nonrefundable he’ll find someone else to go with, and you can buy tickets for yourself if it’s **that** important to you.