To make this short my uncle has stopped speaking to my wife and I (plus made it verbally clear he hates my wife) 6 months ago after he tried kicking us out out of our apartment (I think he wanted to move in – I don’t know how). We have 2 kids and he has 1 that is older.
With all that I’ve noticed how most of my family has severe narcissistic behaviours so we’ve stopped being in contact with them. They barely contacted us before anyways. Overall it’s been way less stressful for us and I noticed my wife and I’s relationship together is less stressed (she cut ties to her family due to the exact same issues).
My uncles son (whom were pretty close in age) I’ve always kept in contact with. He even says Merry Christmas/happy birthday to me. Unfortunately I hadn’t heard from him since the altercation with his dad. I even tried reaching out and didn’t hear anything from him since that day.
Would I be the asshole for not getting my kids to make a picture or something cute for my uncle since it’s his birthday? Normally I would do things like this for him but the lack of respect since he moved closer to us is unbelievable (not to mention all the back talking).
NTA. Don’t stick your kids in the line of fire. It’s awkward with them next door but until you all make peace (or don’t) there’s no sense in getting the littles involved.
NTA, he isn’t entitled to a happy birthday. Especially if he is a bad person who wanted these same kids on the street by attempting to kick you out.
NTA
Your uncle cut communication with your wife and yourself. You are under no obligation to start communicating with him. Enjoy the peace and quiet, why poke the bear?
Leave that door firmly shut! NTA I get you miss your cousin, maybe time will heal that relationship.
NTA. Just keep doing what you’ve been doing- no contact at all is peaceful for everyone