long story short, me and my ex have been speaking again after a year of no contact and has openly admitted to missing me, what we had, our memories etc
however, hes in a relationship with someone online, someone he hasnt met in person and when me and my ex met in person to talk he was all over me like how we used to be but it felt so wrong, not because i didnt want it, but because he is dating someone else.
ive gathered enough ‘proof’ of him emotionally and physically cheating, the ex claims the partner knows about this situation but i have a gut feeling he doesnt and really, he deserves to know hes being cheated on.
my ex claims he "needs time to process and think on things" which has taken over a month now and im tired of waiting.
so AITA if i send the partner the proof of him cheating?
I think you need to be honest with yourself about what you want to achieve by doing it. If it’s because you think he’s acting badly, she deserves to know and you want to end the relationship then I would do it.
Or do you want to force his hand to make him choose you? Because I doubt that will work tbh.
You are aware he’s in a relationship and have still pursued one with him, so for me ESH apart from the online girlfriend (assuming she’s real)
Assuming shes real is probably not a great assumption tbh, at least now
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YTA because you’re the person he’s cheating with?!?!
If he’s an ex, then remember why. Have some self worth and find a decent man!
THIS!
ESH – You are the person he is cheating with. It clearly isn’t bothering you that he’s cheating, so it seems like you are just trying to break them up to have your ex to yourself. You both are awful.
Just so I understand, are you okay with the intimacy and simply wanting to break them up? Or are you against the intimacy and trying to help the new partner out?
I’m so glad I don’t partake in these stupid games anymore, the drama this shit creates isn’t worth it at all.
ESH. Ex sucks for potentially being unfaithful and you for gathering proof. Do or don’t tell, but I kinda read you gathering proof as moving this to ESH. (Disclaimer: I said “potentially cheating” cause I recognize I’m emotionally stunted and my bar for cheating may be higher than others.)
Don’t go back to exes, why don’t you respectfully see yourself out…you’ve allowed these conversations to continue in the first place and now you’ve gathered dirt 🤣 to what end?
Honestly, YTA and need to reflect on this and question your choices.
online relationships are not real girl. YTA
Why are you doing it, is it so they guy finishes with him and you can have him. If so, then you are both arseholes.
Just move on from this ar crash of a human, he’ll only do the same to you in the long run
YTA
Don’t pretend you care at all about the current partner’s feelings. If you did, you wouldn’t be partaking in the cheating.
You are 100% trying to break them up so you can have him back.
just leave this situation lol, block ur ex bc he’s clearly a bad guy n dont go fuck around in other ppls lives