(I’m not gonna re-explain a bunch of stuff to keep this short, but see this for more info.)
[previous post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1p7op0o/aio_on_being_so_stressed_about_a_service_dog/)
Me and my psychologist and I have been trying to get me a Service dog, so far only my mother (and maybe my dad, idk if she told him) and my cousin, who is the only one in my family I trust, know abt it.
In an attempt to be friendly to my brother, I mentioned I might be getting a service dog.
He said, “You can’t get a Service Dog just because you want one,” And he scoffed and walked away.
I dont like blindsiding him, so I thought a little heads up on the situation was a good thing to do, but now I’m thinking I was in the wrong.
AITA for mentioning it to him?
Edit: For context
I (16f) am disabled, I have been since I was born and have had a few more diagnoses over the years, but my family has never been considerate or understanding of it, they avoid the topic or call me over dramatic or just straight up lying. Despite my having surgeries, procedures, and a lot of therapy, not to mention the costs of Medications and the procedures themselves, which I am very grateful for, I am very grateful that insurance has covered most of it.
For context, growing up, I had to take care of all my own needs from around the age of 9, which included cooking, cleaning laundry, and all school-related things to the point they referred to me as the quiet girl who just takes care of herself. I understand that having this view of me and not the real one can be shocking when people find out I am disabled.
Because of how I had to live, I grew up in a constant state of burnout, to the point I started SH, and earlier this year, a Suicide attempt had to take a 2-month medical leave.
I don’t know your situation. However, this reminds me of my kids growing up. They are twins and i didn’t want them comparing or anything. I had them in different classes and at times different schools. As an adult i mentioned to my son how my daughter told her college classmates she had an iep. My son looks at me in shock and awe and said “she had an iep???????” Apparently they were and are very close but school stuff never came up much. It is possible your brother honestly doesn’t knower you have a disability. Its also possible he doesnt know that said disability can be helped bug having a service dog. You may need to find out what is rattling around in his mind before writing him off. I kept my kids’ info private from each other — it wasnt their business. Now i wonder if i did wrong to them. Giv3s me something to think about. Sorry about typos. Tried to minimize. Got new phone and taking time to adapt.
Nta but you may need to talk to bro or something.
i want to but im scared ToT
He does know, but he has only really heard abt it in crossing or from me directly. I just dont think he believes it’s real. We have never been closetoh each other. My parents are very dismissive of it so maybe that is why he is too?
INFO, the post you linked was removed so you may want to add some context. Based on what’s here it seems like your brother is the asshole here, but if there’s more context to give then it might be needed.
Okay ill add an edit for context
I wouldn’t bother, this one’s getting deleted as well the moment the mods wake up.
INFO — The link you mentioned had been removed.
info. May i ask your disabilities and how a service dog may help?
I really dont like saying what my disabilities are on the internet because of how toxic it has become; people are starting to say even blindness doesnt classify as a disability, which is insane to me.
I have 2 physical disabilities and 3 psychiatric ones.
Service dogs are quite common for a few of them.
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why?