My mom has always been nosy. She’s an Indian mom with a very narrow mind.
Yesterday she was going thru my bag for no reason and doing a condom wrapper. Which btw I haven’t used. I mean we tried to but I’m awkward w intimate stuff. So Im still a virgin. But she called me a call girl (whore) and randi and asked me if I earn this way. She asked if the money they give me is too less for me. She also told me not to consider her my mother anymore. I’ve been crying the whole night. When I woke up to get ready for my clg. She didn’t respond to me. And didn’t make me any breakfast. Ig I’m on my own then.
She has a problem with my lip gloss and liptint. Which all the girls my age carry to the clg. It’s not a fucking school. She thinks I use it to get ready for my customers
What kind of a mom says all this stuff to get own daughter.
Thats why kids leave their parents in old age homes i think. The amount of trauma these parents give young kids is crazy. And then they expect us to take care of them in the future. It’s like we were only born for their use. To only take care of them. Why? Because they birthed us and gave us such a wonderful life
No of course you’re NTA. Your mom sounds extremely old-school, raised in a misogynistic environment, and you’re living in the modern world. She sounds cold and judgmental (two really “non-godly” things!). You don’t say how old you are, but at some point you will have to make your own life. Find people who care about you. And take good care of yourself!
My mom called me a whore all the time. Im an adult now and it still affects my way of thinking and how i present myself. This is super messed up, and you shouldn’t take her words seriously at all. Its unfair and internally misogynistic of her to say this to her young daughter. Shes clearly got low self esteem and is taking it out on you.
NTA.
I got SA’d when I was 16 and when my mom found out she said “You must have done something for him to do that” some moms are just not designed to be moms.
That sort of thing really messes people up. I’m so sorry that you had to go through that.
desi woman here, and no, you are NTA. it’s hard for our parents to let go of old world traditions; you are not in india, you are in a western country (presumably) with western traditions and customs. that is simply a choice she and your father made moving to another country, because your values will inherently be different. please don’t take it personally, and hopefully she’ll come around and cut you a plate of fruit as an apology sooner rather than later
NTA. If this is how your mom wants to treat you, then you owe her nothing.
Im not sure where you’re from. But on my side of the world, kids disown their parents for that kind of nonsense.
I stopped talking to one of my parents years ago for many reasons and don’t plan on seeing him again until he is in a coffin.
Take care of yourself, build a towards a life that you want, and move on. If your mom wants to reconcile after that,make sure it’s on your terms.Not hers.
NTA. Your mom is a worshipper of patriarchy, she didn’t like the fact that you choose to do something without letting them know.
Stay strong sis, these parents do not think we need our privacy as well, you mother is the asshole here.
Indian moms call their daughters sluts for literally no reason.
I’m sorry I’m petty, I like to burn bridges and your mom sound like a childish hell.
Id tell her “mom I’m still virgin. YOU on the hand had had sex before. I’m the proof of that. So who’s the ho here”
PS oh oh and when she starts pestering you about giving her grandchildren, say “you need sex for that and I ain’t a ho. So you WANT me to become one??? Also gross you telling me to have sex???”
Yeah I’m THAT petty.
NTA
burning bridges is good but there is no point in trying to argue with people who do not want to understand and are adamant on their own assumptions and preconceived notions. OP’s mom would just call her a liar and get even more frustrated with how she argued back and it might affect OP more
NTA. It’s probably the same thing she heard said to her while growing up. When people are hurting, they tend to also hurt others.
Coming from a Catholic Asian household I would say ignore
Focus on your growth and wellbeing. When the time comes you are more independent then put up all the boundaries you need. For now, build your foundations and build them well bec Asian parents are known to use guilt real hard on their adult kids as a way of control.
I wish you well.