Long story short I have literally been blamed by my white family for everything since I’m half Mexican. My grandparents made me start working an actual job when I was 6 years old. I had to work my entire childhood. Not like chores I mean like an actual all day job. Then my 2 little cousins started blaming me and setting me up and they lie about everything. Everything they claim is them is actually all stuff that just happened to me. I learned to set a boundary I didnt talk to them I didn’t hang out with them. They used my silence against me to form all kinds of lies that they said I told them. Meanwhile they are insane theives. So they will lie and say I stole something so they can steal pretty much everything I own at one point or another. Only my grandparents always pick them and it’s been crazy the stuff they have done to me. Forward to now. My grandparents conned me and a friend out of a bunch of work and money. They claimed they couldn’t afford their house and they wanted us to clean it up and take over the payments etc. they didn’t do anything they agreed to do. They didn’t give my friend his room either, just kept listening to my dirt bag cousin and ripping us off. They got in trouble with the county and I was worried I did almost 90 grand worth of cleaning outside labor taking stuff to the dump etc. My grandma went out there and made messes in every spot that I had cleaned she put a new pile of trash. Even my aunt was like WTF are you doing mom? I kept trying to help them but basically I was the only one who realized and was acting like if the county cleaned up their property it was going to be bad and they could loose the place. My cousins and grandparents kept saying I was crazy that would never happen and even began lying about what the county was saying until finally the county came and then my cousin has screamed and yelled at me a few times about the entire thing being my fault. Today my grandparents are about to loose my cousins house she helped them loose it and their main house. My cousin is the one who is supposed to be taking care of them but to the cleaners they have been going. She has ruined several businesses everything basically. My grandparents keep yelling at me and basically forcing me to send and scan and do a bunch more work for them . I keep asking them to figure their own shit out because I’m done. I can’t I feel like I have nothing left in me for them. I told them it’s their problem they need to work on it with my cousin I have done enough for them and if they want to hire me for my service then do so but I can’t anymore. I have helped them with several other legal things and getting them cash money in the past and they are never grateful or appreciative. I feel like them continuing to dump their baggage onto me isn’t right and they should accept the boundary I have put up. Am I the asshole for wanting to cut toxic grandparents out of my life?
I’d almost never fault someone for cutting toxic people out of their life. NTA
NTA, you have to do what’s best for you.
Nta how old are you so you live with them. Can’t you just block them and not visit