So, for background context, I go to college in USC my friend held a party, and I went over to their dorm to join. Still, halfway through it got busted by the CAs, and in the group of like 20 people in the dorm, I lowkey kinda went away from the group to calm myself down and pull trig, but then ended up staying away for longer than I meant and didn’t get in trouble at all. Now they are deciding whether they want to keep me in their life, or not. Should I be more ashamed of what I did, or are they blowing it a little bit out of proportion? EDIT: I should also add that they are upset with me because they thought that I was just really selfish and rude that night, and are saying that since my actions were really selfish that night, and people reveal their true selves when drunk, that I’m actually a selfish person. EDIT AGAIN The text above is the main reason why they are upset with me, the other reasons were misunderstandings I cleared up and took accountability for and apologized for, this was the only one where I didn’t really understand why they were taking me out of their life for this specific reason.
NTA. So they’re mad because you didn’t get busted with them? Your friends held the party. This is the consequences of their actions.
Lmao, they should be happy you got away wtf
NTA. I’m not sure what you staying and possibly getting in trouble would have benefited anyone. If you had ALSO thrown the party, THEN i would understand them being upset you bailed lol
Nope I was invited like everybody else, I was asked to go pickup the alc tho
My friend, don’t volunteer to be the person doing the ILLEGAL thing
I mean, did you blow the whistle on them or something? Why would they be mad otherwise?
NTA. “We’re mad that you didn’t get in trouble with us! You did the smart thing while we were being idiots, and now we’re MAD” If it was YOUR party and you left people hanging in the wind, then you’d be TA. But they’re mad that the FAFO’d, and you got lucky enough to not FO.
NTA. Why do your “friends” want you to be in trouble too??
NTA. Why would you even want to be in these people’s life? Anyone who wants to drag you into trouble to feel better about themselves is someone you should steer clear of. It sounds like USC is full of crappy people. Find better friends.
NTA for bailing early. Your friends shouldn’t want you to get in trouble with them. But based on the last bit, it sounds like there’s some context to your actions missing. Care to explain more? If not, I’d reevaluate if this is a symptom of a larger issue in your friendships.
I fucking have no idea – no idea whatsoever what you’re babbling about. Could you possibly translate this into actual English??
NTA. When a party gets busted, most people’s first instinct is just not to get in trouble. Stepping away or leaving the room is a pretty normal reaction. It doesn’t mean you were betraying anyone or showing your “true selfish self.”
Also, you didn’t call anyone out or get them in trouble. You just removed yourself from the situation. If they’re seriously reconsidering the friendship over that, they’re probably overreacting a bit. Getting busted at a dorm party isn’t some loyalty test.
NTA. The party that they threw got broken up. You not getting into trouble is not selfish or rude. What are the chances that those same friends who are deciding your friendship fate would stay and volunteer to get in trouble with you if the tables were turned. Zero chance. Zero.
So they are blaming you because you sidestepped trouble. This is a whole new level of victimhood. NTA and let them escort themselves out of your life. People like that bring nothing but bad JUJU into your life. Tell them to kindly F-Off whether they want to stay friends or not. NTA