Just started a new job after 18 years and only get one week of vacation with my new job. We have 2 kids and are celebrating our 10 year anniversary together out of country. It’s also her 40th birthday this year. However tonight she told me she wants to include her best friend. I was reluctant and told her sincerely that I wanted it to be just us, but this did not settle good with her and is adamant on her friend coming. Thoughts?
NTA obviously, it’s just weird. Probs grounds for some counselling, seriously, if she thinks taking someone along for such a massive occasion for you both is a necessary want.
So who would be paying for fb to third wheel? Sorry but that just seems off to me. How have things been going marriage wise?
NTA – I just went on a trip with my husband to celebrate our 10th anniversary and it would have sucked to have a 3rd wheel, I couldn’t think of anything worse than having my best friend there with us, I can do stuff with her on my own. I’d be asking the question as to why your wife isn’t content with just the two of you
I’d find it cause for serious concern. Talk to her about it again.
NTA. OP please discuss with your wife why she wants to bring her bff on your 10th anniversary trip. Is she thinking the trip is more a 40th birthday trip than an anniversary trip?
Yeah, you need to ask why. It reads weird to me with no other info and maybe you guys can get on the same page. I **love** my best friend and she and my husband are actually very good friends too, but I wouldn’t invite her to something like this.
you are not TA. but she definitely is. married for almost 40 yrs and we’ve had some rough spots but never have I suggested my friend come along on a milestone or out of country trip. don’t waste your limited vacation days on this trip.
NTA yikes
Just NO
NTA
It sounds like she wants you to be the third wheel on your anniversary trip.
NTA. The occasion is your anniversary trip, and having someone else there besides your spouse is pretty inappropriate considering the situation.
Tell her no, a celebration of your *wedding anniversary* does not include her buddy. They can go on a separate vacation another time.
Seriously, if you don’t put a stop to this, you’re going to have a miserable trip.
NTA. Unless she’s planning a surprise threesome that’s a weird request.
Is her best friend a guy?