I (18F) started working at my current job a month ago. there is one co worker (36M) that I only see on Tuesdays. he works Tuesday, Wednesday, and Sunday, the last two being my days off. he’s always been EXTREMELY respectful!!! i don’t want anyone to think this is a situation where he’s being creepy and weird. he calls me Bonita, talks to me about my day even though he’s in the kitchen so I only see him for a few minutes at a time. he talks to me until it’s past my time to leave, and gets upset when I leave. he says "ok!! I’ll see you on Tuesday!!!"
this week he overheard a conversation that me and a different coworker were having about me needing more money and more shifts. he asked if I was available to work on Wednesdays and I told him I was. he said he’d give up his shifts and give them to me. i work in the front and he does both the kitchen and the front. and when I’m not working on Wednesday, he’s in the front. after he offered, I told him it was okay, but he said the offer still stands.
I started to flirt back. i started asking more about him and playing into the little games he’d try to play (like tictac toe). i even gave him my number, he even winked at me. it’s been four days and I haven’t gotten a message.
aitah for "leading him on"?
Idk if I would consider you an AH, but it definitely isn’t the most honorable way to behave
Just throw him a blowie, then you’ve earned it. Otherwise, yes, you are the asshole
Yes
NTA – He’s twice your age, and no one is forcing him to give up shifts.
okie dokie
100%
Are you actively flirting, or are you just being friendly? My vote really depends on that, if you’re actively flirting maybe a soft YTA. But if it’s just what you have described here back in my kitchen days I would have just interpreted that as having made a work friend. And if it’s just that then NTA.
i think it’s a work friend with one sided flirting at this point
I have questions! 😁
Did you know the hours were only part-time before you accepted the position? Have you spoken with your manager about wanting more hours?
Based on your story so far I think it’s fine that he offered you his Wednesday shift, and it’s also fine that you declined his offer. I don’t understand why you started flirting with him? Are you trying to get him to make the offer again because you regret saying no the first time?
i have answers 😊
so when I started I had said that because of my classes, I can only work on certain days. I also told them that starting Next semester (like now) I’ll be able to work every day of the week. they said they can’t change my schedule now, which is fine. I’m looking for a second job because I knew the hours agreed upon.
yes that’s exactly what it is. i want him to offer again so that way it doesn’t feel like I’m being a bitch when I accept
YTA trashy and your other post history supports my theory
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