Hey Reddit I need some help?
AITAH for liking a guy that I like first in forever??
Hi Reddit and this is my first time ever doing anything like this.. I lwk can’t ask anyone due to this shame. Lmao
My friend likes this guy and I have like him WAYY before she done so and the whole friend group knows I have and even her but I kinda “stop” ? I kinda started liking him all over again, and she told me how she likes him, which kinda hurt me a bit so I just pretended like it didn’t hurt me.
And I know he likes her a bit too, I can’t stop that or be mad at her for that, love is love.
But I do know she can’t really date
him?
I like this boy for like 3 in a half years I dated others knowing I still like him and I know it’s fuck up but almost all those guys cheated on me or played me, which doesn’t make it better but my feelings to him was always mid low and I like him and he was always there for me. He was always there to make sure I was okay and good, we were even each other friend valentine once’s..? We even share passwords with each other. I was there when him and his other girl he dated and they broke up.
Everyone knew I was madly in love with him but him.. he knew kinda? But he was so immature back than,he changed now which is okay we’re okay, I lied to him telling him I never like him when in fact I did. When he always treated me wrong for others etc I was always nice to him.
I realize more stuff than anyone with him, I know his favorite games, what he said to my 2 in half years ago, what he does when he stress and when he even stress he does a little thing with his leg and his head, or even when he upset I’m the only one who is always there for him. He very valuable with me and I am a little, I always now when he sad or pretending for others. Stay up for his birthday to be the first one to say happy birthday and give him gifts. but I feel like I’m only there when he upset? He barely talks to me and when he does it’s something bother him..
Should I give up? Or should I tell him and fuck up our friendship. I genuinely can’t be near him and see him fall in love with someone else.. when it hurts me knowing I like him for so long and did a lot. He hugs her and acts like a couple with her. I feel like a fuck up person knowing my friend likes him? But is it so wrong when she knew I like him for so long..? So would I be the asswhole for confessing to him.
Btw I went to two communities to ask ngl😓😓
This boy is gonna break both of your hearts….don’t confess to him, if he wanted to be with you he would. Don’t worry, he will diss your friend soon, too. Just ride it out.
I’m not sure this post belongs in this sub, but here goes.
If you never tell him you’re romantically interested in him, you’ll probably never know if he’s interested in you. I vote tell him you’d like to take him out on a date sometime, (doesn’t have to be fancy, just go somewhere and grab a drink or ice cream or whatever) just make sure he knows it’s a DATE not a friend thing. If he says no thanks, you have your answer. If he says yes, you have your answer. Either way you can still be friends.
NTA. Liking someone isn’t wrong, especially when you liked him first and for so long. The only small step I’d suggest is: talk to your friend first, honestly but gently, and say you’re thinking about telling him. Her reaction might tell you a lot about both the friendship and what to do next.
This is a hard situation for you to be in, but — as you pointed out — there isn’t much you can do.
“But I do know she can’t really date him?”
She can. You “stopped” liking him and told him you never liked him. You can’t reserve him for yourself for 3 1/2 years. Other people are going to like him and he’s going to like other people.
All these things you know about him may mean that you’re good friends, but they don’t mean that he belongs to you. If he was attracted to you, you put an end to that, at least temporarily, by telling him you never liked him. If he’s not in the middle of a relationship with someone else, you can tell him how you feel. But expect him to be confused.
You don’t say how old you are, but I’m guessing you’re very young, so one thing I can tell you is that even if he seems like the most important person in the world, you WON’T feel this way forever. That may be impossible to believe. But almost everyone goes through this kind of drama when they’re young, and pretty much everyone gets over it, whatever happens. And if you can learn from it, all the better. Like . . . maybe don’t completely hide your feelings from someone you like?
What are you, 12? Good lord. Get over him and get over yourself. You’re acting like a child and it’s embarrassing. You liked him for years but he was never mature, but now he is and your friend likes him? Well guess what. You had a crush and you didn’t do diddly squat about it. He clearly likes the attention you give him but doesn’t have any kind of romantic feelings for you. Do yourself a favor. Move on from him. He is just a guy. He might have matured, but it doesn’t sound like you have. You’re that person that thinks they’re dating someone for reasons x, y & z and is shocked when that person starts seeing someone else.
Do yourself a favor and move on now. It’s gonna suck, but you need to move away and move on. And as always, therapy. ESH
Trying to read this gave me a stroke. YTA just for that.
So am I to understand that you’ve had feelings for this guy, but you dated others? I don’t want to sound mean, but you can’t expect someone to be okay with waiting around for you while you get your feelings together. If you and this boy were meant to be together, either you date or you don’t. Expecting him (or your friend, for that matter) not to date because you didn’t realize how much you liked this guy until they did start dating is a bit much.
There…I think I got this right. Now…if your friend knew that you really did have deep (but unrequited) feelings for this boy, but she’s going around with him anyways…she’s not much of a friend. And, if this boy knows how you feel about him but he’s all sucky face with your best friend right in front of you, then I’d say he’s a tool…and you should let her have him!
Bruh.
What is it that you like about him! Physical, mental or emotional. And does the fact that he now is with another girl make you jealous.
It seems like your attention is suffocating him. Love can be too much. Find out your codependent behaviour type. Look up Kenny Weiss on yt.