I (M17) haven’t been feeling good and have been throwing up little to every night, I did last night and I still feel crappy and on edge every second, today is my little sisters 13th birthday and I didn’t feel like going to it because of that, and the fact if I did throw up I didn’t want it to be at a birthday party and embarrassed myself and make it a problem for everyone else. I feel really bad for not going and will continue to but I did the most I could and told her I love her and hope she has a amazing birthday as well as stating why I couldn’t feel like comeing. My mother is upset because I did and called me a asshole and a dick for not comeing and my sisters grandma is upset at me too…AITAH?
NTA. I’m not even gonna elaborate on that. Especially when you’re sick you don’t owe anyone your time.
You are NTA but your mother is definitely TA for being horrible to you. I would NEVER EVER call my sons names like that, especially if they were sick!
NTA, probably for the best you didn’t. Giving your sister whatever you’ve got at the moment would be an awful birthday gift
NTA. If we have learned anything in the past decade it is that when you are sick you try to avoid getting other people sick.
NTA.
>I haven’t been feeling good and have been throwing up little to every night, I did last night and I still feel crappy
Here’s the reason why you didn’t go to the birthday party. You’re clearly too sick to attend. This situation is a needless lose, lose situation. You go to the party and puke everywhere and ruin the party but when you don’t go to prevent that, it’s somehow still a problem
NTA. Just call her to let her know that you’re really gutted you couldn’t be there but you’re ill. She’ll understand. Video call if you feel up to it.
NTA. You’re not 48 hours clear of being sick. Imagine you went and passed on this sickness to your sister. Guaranteed, your mum would be calling you an A H then too. You’d be in mum’s bad books in either scenario, but at least this way doesn’t pass any illness on to others.
Think of how pissed off they would’ve been if you HAD gone, and had barfed all over everyone, including the birthday girl. You did the right thing. Ignore the criticism.
NTA-you’re being responsible. You’re taking care of yourself while also making sure others don’t get sick, especially if you end up throwing up at her party. Your mom and the grandma ATA though!
NTAH. Do they want you to spread your germs around and get others sick. You should stop by the house ask both of them to come to the door and then cough on them and go home. When they get sick say see that’s why I didn’t attend.
NTA but why are you throwing up every night? Have you been sick for more than three days because it’s not normal to throw up a little bit every night. The stomach flu lasts 24 to 72 hours. If you’ve been sick for longer than that, you might want to see a doctor.
And if you haven’t been sick for longer than that, you’d think your family would recognize that you have a temporary stomach flu and leave you alone. In fact… If I were your family, I wouldn’t want you coming to a party and sharing that with guests.
I was told I was horrible for not going to my nieces first birthday because I had shingles! The find out, people went who had covid, so my niece ended up sick. She was born super early so was trying to protect her. Told my SIL, I will show up next time sick, not well, whatever. Her only response was, “good! As you should” who says that?!?
NTA
If you potentially have a contagious illness, it’s highly irresponsible to attend a gathering. More people should follow your example. Missing things sucks but it’s much worse to knowingly expose others.
I imagine your sister understands better than your mom does.
NTA – you dont go to parties (especially for younger kids) when you are sick. plus you need to see a dr. 3 or 4 days of being sick is enough to warrent a dr trip. save your energy for that.