Hello people of Reddit, I (20M) am currently not talking to my parents because of occur that happened a year ago and this year. I’ll start when I was 18, I couldn’t get a job when I got out of high school and it really made my parents think I didn’t want to get a job, but in reality I applied for jobs, on indeed, zip recruiter, and even on the companies website. Still wasn’t good enough for them. This happened after I met my girlfriend (20F). Instead of blaming their own expectations they blame on others thinking she was the reason I didn’t want a job. I felt like I was gonna lose my relationship and sanity if I didn’t get out of there. So my girlfriend and I moved to different states to get away from it. I ended up getting a job within a month after we moved. I didn’t talk to my parents during this time so I was at peace. I did pretty well for myself, I felt like an actual adult.
Paying for my own expense, working to earn an incom,etc. After so many months they reached out to me, at first I was hesitant to get back in touch, but I decided to give it the benefit of the doubt and responded. They asked me if I wanted one of their cars so I can use to go to work, so I accepted. When they arrived to drop off the car I asked them if it was worth me going here, but they said, “No it wasn’t worth it.” I wanted to tell them, ”Ok, there’s the door.” But I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to start an argument there with my friends. Sorry if I have to cut this short. I’ll make a part 2 of the story ASAP.
NTA , cos your parents have to be supportive during the key turning points if your life , the fact that you actually was responsible with your gf and got a job and the mention of the word peace , all directs to the fact that they didn’t create a safe space for you. Parents do make mistakes and yes it is worth taking a break
I brought around my life after leaving my house too , constant judgement from my mom made me literally stutter