My husband, son, sister, and I are planning a short Florida trip. My sister’s fiancé wants to come but my husband and him don’t get along. I will be 5 months pregnant by then and don’t want tension on a trip that’s supposed to be fun and relaxing.
We’re also part of the same religion and since they aren’t married yet my husband and I would be responsible for chaperoning which we’re not comfortable with. I also don’t feel like that’s a sibling responsibility. I think it should be up to theparents not us. Mind you you he doesn’t even live in the same state its a long distance relationship. I even told him it would probably be different if the whole family went but he didnt care.
My sister already told him my husband wouldn’t be okay with it and asked him not to bring it up but he messaged me directly on Instagram asking to come (1st message he pretty much said told me he was buying his ticket and coming anyway but my sister deleted it. I saw a preview under my notifications). I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that because we only booked 1 hotel room and suggested he plan a separate trip with her instead. He got upset and said he feels left out of the family and told us have fun because this is probably the last trip i will have with my sister before he moves her out of the state. Again, I told him to plan a trip with the whole family. He just stresses me out, pretty much a man child with no boundaries and a short fuse.
AITAH
NTA
> this is probably the last trip i will have with my sister before he moves her out of the state.
Please share this information with your sister.
It sounds like she is not setting herself up for a good marriage.
She saw it!! I’ve told her so many times she deserves better and that his behavior worries me but she doesnt seem to care. Im so worried about to whole situation
Unfortunatly the religions that want chaparones also make a woman feel left out if not married..
They also tend to not create or attract the best male partners.
It’s almost like being in a culture where women are taught to be under their family’s control and supervision makes it hard for them to recognize that being under someone’s control and supervision is generally unhealthy.
NTA, but honestly, just do your own trip and let them do their own.
Also you lost me at having to “chaperone” two grown adults. What is this summer bible study?
Religion is a cult for a reason!
She’s a part of a cult, there isn’t any thought behind it.
It is a cult, but chaperoning is a pretty obvious thing to understand.
The cult is very perverted and has to care about what people are doing with their sex parts. So they need to be actively cock blocked until they’re married and she can throw away her life to be a baby making machine.
I was raised Jehovahs witness and couples weren’t allowed alone together until marriage so all dates had to be group activities or have a chaperone. It didn’t matter how old they were. I did it a few times for my sister as a teen, once I let them sit by themselves at a movie because I super didn’t care and another jw saw them kiss and call both sets of parents 🙄
“my husband and I would be responsible for chaperoning”
Get over yourselves and your weird religion where you feel the need to control others.
He sucks too though.
ESH
Imagine following such strict religious rules that you can’t allow two grown adults to spend time alone together without a babysitter. It’s weird.
YTA. This whole situation is bizarre. I see other commenters bring up that your sister is likely being brought as a free babysitter, and I think they are correct.
The reasons you provide for excluding your sister’s fiance can all be addressed in one way or another (a second hotel room, for one, and honestly it’s weird that you only have one room currently.)
And, I think if you were religious enough to follow a chaperone plan, then you’re religious enough to practice kindness and love, and you are not doing those things. Maybe you should reflect about what type of person you want to be.
I’m not going to comment on the seemingly controlling nature of your sister’s fiancé, because you clearly do not like him and I think we are seeing a biased view here. Frankly, you seem to be just as controlling.
What are you going to do when he is your actual brother-in-law? Again, maybe you should reflect about what type of person you want to be.
Your sister has a fiance and she still needs to be chaperoned how old is she? 😂
Edit : never mind I read through the comments and found out that she’s 30 years old I don’t know what type of religion y’all has but it sounds ridiculous a 30-year-old woman does not need a damn chaperone That’s ridiculous