I just wanted to talk about this even though it’s been a while now it’s probably been been a year. Am I the asshole for thinking My stepdad is a creep I can’t seem to get out out of my head. He would always constantly look at wrestlers that are around my age and then one day before I was about to move out
he was gonna go check the water tank down in the basement. By the way I sleep in the basement because my room is down there and I told him to please check the water tank if I am not asleep, Check, if I’m awake, please wake me up if you will check the water tank and he got really mad
He would start arguing with me about this and it got so bad. My brothers and mom got involved and my mother came down, screaming at me and blaming me for everything saying that I always cause drama even though I explained to her what happened and even afterwards, explaining to her, what happened and how I felt uncomfortable, she still took his side .
Everyone said he was just gonna check the water tank and it wasn’t weird at all. I find it really strange that he just won’t wake me up or do it when I am alert and aware he was down there.
So AITAH ?
I have to edit this I have never lived with him growing up I moved back when I was 20 years old and it was late night when he said he would check again the water tank I didn’t argue that he couldn’t check I just argued that I want to be awake when he went down there. The only thing I recall him doing odd is calling me pretty or beautiful when I checked myself in the mirror and once he sent me a winky face I told my sister and mom he told them it was accidental that the emoji is different on iPhone and Samsung
NTA, you are not the problem they need to fix the issue of lack communication in that house.I do not know why your mum had to react like that , is there any underlying issues..anyways talk it out
INFO. Has he ever made you feel uncomfortable? Like innapropiate comments or touching, barging in while you’re changing, that sort of thing. I’m just curious why you think of him as a creep.
He always complemented me on my looks whenever I was checking my outfit at the mirror in the hallway btw I never grew up with him he was never like a father I am btw 23 female. I moved back home at around 20 years old because of a failed relationship.
Was there a time specific reason why he had to check it during the time you would be sleeping? I’m not sure why you would assume he would need to check it while you were asleep.
The water kinda stopped working and he checked but said he would check again later and I said sure but only if I am awake then he got mad and he only kept getting more defensive.
Either you are a bit paranoid or your spidey senses are correct. If everyone talked to each other in your house things might go better. I assume you really meant your mum was ‘screaming’ and you are not just exaggerating for effect.
The wrestling thing seems odd to me, do you mean he turns the match off if the wrestlers seem to be above a certain age?
Info: do you have a separate room or is it in the same room as the water tank? And, has he ever done anything that makes you think he is a creep other than looking at wrestlers? Because if the water tank isn’t in your sleeping area, asking him to check the water tank when you’re not sleeping is insulting.
It was in my sleeping area there’s a curtain that separate the room kind of I tried to make it that way but to enter you had to walk directly down and you can see my bed and everything. He did do one thing once gave me a text of a winky face once but when I told my sister and mom they said he told them it looks different cause iPhone and Samsung is different emojis. He also calls me pretty etc when I check myself in the mirror before going out
NTA. It’s not something to get mad about. I have my kids and step kids full time. It’s a big ass family so we have a finished basement and the older teens live down there. Since all my kids are girls and my step kids had just…well gone thru the event to lead them to staying with me full time i can fully a-test it’s not hard to be loud as hell coming down basement stairs and be annoying loud so everyone knows you’re there. It’s not hard to respect a small piece of safety and privacy.
Question though, is he doing this because he doesn’t want you there and wants you to leave? I saw you said you’d never lived with him before.
YTA – in your last post you said that you are in your 20s. There isn’t anything creepy about looking at adult women. There is nothing creepy about checking a water tank. Unless he is going down there late at night there is no reason he should have to work around your sleeping habits. You are causing unnecessary drama.
It was at night late night and I had work in the morning
Yta.thst doesn’t make him creepy
Adult men should not enter an adult woman’s bedroom while they are sleeping. NTA.