My sister kept making my pregnancy about herself and would always refer my child as her own child saying “ my baby” I told her it would confuse my child and not to say that she would constantly complain how selfish I am and during my pregnancy she demanded to know my child’s name first and my child gender first before even I knew or before anyone else knew when I said no she got mad and she demanded to be there when I give birth I said no she got mad and she even got mad because I wouldn’t let her be the godmother in her own loving words
“in case I die “
After I gave birth she would demand to see my child I said no and I said I was still healing she called me selfish cried made more drama with my family and even said to me that if my child is ok then she can come see my kid even if I am healing I was upset and said no. She has no limits she loves to make fun of me or my brothers in public and swearing at us btw I am 23 female and she is 26 female she has no kids but is married and never tries to have her own kids but has always told me she would take my kid if I didn’t want my child she said this to me way back before I ever had my child.
I was done talking to her and have been ignoring her and block her and my mother because they both keep pushing my limits I could go on and on about what they keep doing but it would be too long to write. My mother btw keeps encouraging this attitude and joins her too telling me things like “ technically your sister is your kids mom if you die because we are blood” like no that’s not how it works. Again I could go on and on.
They used my brothers phone recently to trick me into talking to me and laughed off all the drama that happened and trying to force me to talk to them they asked me why don’t I want to talk to them l said “ because you never know when to shut the beep up” and she got upset went on a big rampage and hung up with on me without letting me talk.
My brother told me she regretted it and he tried to make me talk to her I said no but for my mom I tried sending her photos of my kid because I felt bad and wanted her to know I still want her to be part of my child’s life she said nothing and send me back a photo of me and my kid but edited my face I haven’t said anything and haven’t spoken to them since
My question is AITAH for blocking them and saying that to my sister. ?
NTA and in your place I’d try to avoid your sister because her behaviour isn’t normal.
Document everything she says and writes to you if it’s out of place. Especially all these sentences like: “I’ll be your child’s mum if you die.” Maybe let few of your friends (or trusted people from outside of the family) know what is happening so there’s any proof in case that her behaviour deteriorates further and she does something to you and/or your baby.
Is it possible that she has any fertility issues or miscarriages and that’s what is causing her behaviour? Does she have any problems with mental health? Imo she should get psychiatric evaluation as her words and actions are worrying
She keeps seeking therapy but nothing helps she also had miscarriages and abortions. She can have a child if she wants she just chooses not to she claims she wants a baby then changes her mind constantly. I don’t understand her plus she’s been a bit nuts since forever ago. She had also assaulted me as a kid once and then had hit me and kicked me down stairs in public she would tell swear at me and embarrass me. I told my mom the things she has done to me but my mom said nothing. Should I also avoid my mom ?
Your mum seems to enable her and doesn’t take your concerns seriously, so probably yes. Maybe give them an ultimatum – either your sister seeks professional help or you go no/low contact?
Mind you, I’m neither psychologist, psychiatrist nor therapist, so take my advice with a grain of salt
Thank you
You and hubby need a will and legal documentation who is to raise your child if something happens to you both
No contact with Mom and sister until they can behave like rational adults. Give your brothers a chance, but when they bring up Mom and sis tell them you don’t want to discuss it, because you don’t want to put them in the middle.
NTA. Your sister needs help. She’s got baby-fever for your kid, and your mother is encouraging this behavior. Go no-contact if you have to, and make sure you have everything in order to keep both of them *far* away from your baby.
NTA, and honestly, staying away from that level of “baby-snatching” energy is just basic self-preservation. Your sister’s behavior calling your baby hers, demanding to be in the delivery room, and literally editing your face out of photos goes way beyond “annoying” and straight into Disturbing Territory. It sounds like she has zero respect for you as a mother or a person, and your mom enabling this “blood means she’s the mom” delusion is a massive red flag.
NTA. You’re handling it almost exactly the way you should.
One other thing, though: save any communications you have with her or your mother. Your sister seems to be edging towards stalker behavior. A document trail could come in very handy if things escalate.
Also let brother’s know that if they allow mom/sis to use their phones again, you are blocking them.
NTA. At first i was like well maybe shes overly excited for a niece or nephew but it quickly spiraled into wtf territory. Cut her off for good
NTA, your sister is sick. It sounds like your family has always enabled her and forced you to be the family scapegoat. This is just an unhealthy situation all around. You’re doing right by keeping up low-no contact
NTA and your sister sounds mentally ill, plus her reproductive history is awful poor thing. But you shouldn’t have to deal with it, unless to help her into therapy. Go lc with her and your mum too.
Something tells me her “I could be the mom if you die” behavior will only get worse, and crazier. NTA and keep her away from the baby!