So I(19F) have an older sister Vicki (24F) who has a lot of tattoos. She’s very purposeful about her tattoos and has them all in the same theme. All of them are nature/plants/animals in I think she calls it an engraving style or something. But basically they’re all in the same style and all are nature things.
So me and her are really close and now that I’m old enough and have saved up enough, I want to get a matching tattoo with her. She’s down for the idea. I spent several days finding matching sister tattoos on Instagram and Tiktok and whatever, and on Saturday I sat down with her to go through and pick which one we should do. She looked through all of them and then said she wasn’t going to do any of them because they don’t match her style. I got upset and asked her, why can’t she just do one tattoo that doesn’t match her style? She said even one tattoo would throw off her entire theme, which upset me. I asked her if she was really putting a "theme" over family loyalty, and she said I was being stupid and that because I said that she wasn’t going to continue this conversation anymore.
I tried to complain to my mom but she doesn’t care about tattoos that much and our dad doesn’t like them at all so neither of them were any help. So, AITAH? I can provide more details if necessary.
YTA. You really don’t get to nag someone to permanently alter their body at your whim.
YTA.
Why would you dictate what someone does to their body. If you don’t compromise she just won’t do it.
You sound very immature.
YTA. You are being childish. Why can’t you pick a matching tattoo to go with her theme since she put together a ver elaborate and intentional look?
YTA. If you want to get a tattoo together you collaborate on styles, you don’t give her a list and then get pissed off and call her stupid because she doesn’t want those particular ones.
YTA-Tattoos are not something that are typically a forced choice one. If it is permanent then it should be selected freely.
YTA.
It’s her body. Your feelings don’t supersede her autonomy.
Are you really going to let a theme stop you from sharing this with her? You could easily match her theme if it’s such a non-issue for you.
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Being family doesn’t obligate anyone to do a permanent body modification at your whim.
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You don’t get to dictate what someone else does with their own body.
You’re the one putting a tattoo over family.
YTA. Since you know sis has a theme, why don’t you focus on finding something that would fit it? *You* put family first
A matching tattoo is “family loyalty”? Give me a break.
If that’s true, why don’t you have some loyalty yourself and cater to her theme? Seems better than trying to guilt her into a tattoo she doesn’t want. YTA
YTA, simply for trying to shame your sister by trying to turn her agreeing with you into a matter of “family loyalty”. It’s not. Matching tattoos are like picking out a baby’s name. It’s a two yes, one no scenario. If she’s not cool with what you picked, pick something else together.
YTA
Are you really putting your theme over family loyalty?
YTA
Keep searching. Or come up with your own design together that matches her theme.
You do not get to dictate what she permanently has inked on her body just because ‘family’.
YTA it’s not your place to dictate what your sister permanently tattoos on her body!
You either agree on a matching one that you both like and don’t do it at all