I (26 F) was asked by my husband (29 M) to sell our tickets to a concert this summer for his cousin’s high school graduation party. I bought these tickets back in September of last year with a couple friends of mine. We have talked about us going to this concert around his family on numerous occasions so it’s not as if it will be a surprise that we have had tickets for that day. The graduation party was just announced the other day and I said “bummer we can’t go.” My husband responded with, “no we need to sell our tickets. It will be rude if we don’t go.” I kind of laughed because I believed he was joking at first but then it was quite evident he was dead serious. I brought up the point that his brother will be at a wedding that weekend so he won’t be there due to a prior commitment. My husband doesn’t think it’s the same thing and that it’s just a concert, and that this grad party is a once in a lifetime event. Am I just that out of touch with reality here? I had multiple cousins with a similar age gap not be able to come to my grad party and I was completely unbothered. I would understand if we had the grad party on our calendar and I was like OOO I wanna go to this concert instead but we have been planning around this for months now. We have a prior commitment and most people understand when you can’t make it to things because you already had plans. Am I really in the wrong here?
NTA, you had plans, it’s not like you’re missing a wedding or baptism. Compromise could be splurging on a nice grad gift for the cousin.
NTA. I’d tell my husband that if he wants to go to the graduation instead of the concert, he’s welcome to give up his ticket and you’ll go to the show with a friend.
You’re not in the wrong here. If it was a sibling, he’d have a case, but no way would I be missing it for a cousin’s wedding.
Not TA. If it’s that important to your husband to attend, you can sell his ticket (hopefully to someone you know), and you and your friends can still go to the concert and he can go to the graduation. His family – his obligation.
NTA, Husband goes to family event, OP goes to the concert with a friend. Problem solved.
NTA, you won’t be wanted at HS grad party in most situations. And it’s just a HS graduation party! Tell him to go if he wants and you’ll take a friend.
Yea; I’d be telling my husband I’ll send you pictures from the concert, enjoy the graduation party 😅 NTAH…..
NTA, tell him to go, and bring someone to the concert that will treat you with more consideration.
NTA. Concert was planned first. Your husband isn’t obligated to go, since he gets to set his own priorities, but he also doesn’t get to set your priorities.
NTA. Just send a card with money, that’s all Grads want anyways 😂 😂 😂
NTA you had prior plans that have been in the works for month vs a last minute party.
He can sell his ticket and go to the party.
You can keep yours and go to the show.
NAH
I have a lot of cousins who are much older than I am. I’m 28 now and I can’t tell you who did and who didn’t come to my graduation party. Go to the concert. Your husband can go to the party if he wants
NTA. He can go to the graduation and you can take a friend to the concert with his ticket.
You bought the tickets. You can take someone else or sell “his” so he can go to the grad party.
NTA