My boyfriend (38m) wants to live separately from me (28f). We’ve been together three years and we are in between places right now and need to be out of where we are in two months. He said he has options for him but only him and I feel really lost. I don’t have friends or family only him. I’m the only one working and with a car right now so I don’t understand how being apart would help at all. We have had an issue with infidelity in our relationship that has made me pretty mean and accusatory towards him. I never thought we would get to a place of not living together but he wants to stay together and live apart. Is this normal? How to I feel okay with it?
Please tell me that in his plan here, you living apart means you only provide for yourself…correct?
That’s exactly what I’m wondering is she going to pay for hers and his? If so then she’s being a huge doormat. But I’m trying to figure out how he’s going to pay for his if he’s not working.
Yeah this post is lowkey terrifying, because it sounds like she will still be financially supporting him while he lives his best life somewhere else. He’s gonna be using OP’s car to take out his side chick, while OP works hard to provide the life said side chick requires. This is so fucking sad.
It sounds like he’s pulling a gradual break. Good for you that you are the breadwinner. The man is almost 40, he cheats, has no car and no job. Get yourself something secured and cut the dead weight while you’re still in your 20s.
Lol, he’s a typical hobosexual.
Edit: After reading OP’S post history, they used to work together but one their married co-workers (who was also OP’S only female friend) sent OP’S partner nudes. He instantly shut it down and let OP know, but OP was still angry about it.
At some point it looks like he’s had no choice but to quit due to OP getting angry with him constantly.
So he didn’t actually cheat. He’s also not as old OP says.
I think he’s just trying to get out cleanly so he can move on with his life and get a job without OP constantly angry because he may have female co-workers or friends.
OP you really need to get help for your insecurities and work on yourself or you’ll destroy any future relationships. This is not healthy.
With your post history, I think this would be a good time to let the relationship go, and focus on yourself. Take this time to find better ways to cope with your BPD. If therapy is too expensive, look into support groups for BPD that can also connect you to more resources.
So you’re with a man 10 years your senior who has cheated on you, he’s unemployed, you have no support system outside of him, and now he’s blindsided you with plans to live alone when you have nowhere to go.
Is this really the relationship you want? It sounds pretty unhealthy.
So he gets you to pay for him and he gets to let you work?
Not him and he gets to continue seeing who he was seeing?
Wow
He’s avoiding a breakup. If he doesn’t want to live with you anymore you have to accept and take this time to heal and move on.
He doesn’t want to live with you because he wants free reign to do whatever he wants including cheating. Live on your own. He has no car and won’t get far. This should be a red flag for you.
The guy is almost 40 dating a younger woman because he has no plans to settle down any time soon. He wants his own place so he can act single and have women over whenever he wants. I think you should see this as the chance to leave him once and for all.
Edited: I saw that he cheated on you 3 months ago. Do you think there’s a chance he might be moving out to be with the other woman?
So you are dating a guy 19yo than you, who has no job, doesn’t drive and cheats on you…..
I think you know what the answer is…
He’s got a woman lined up
What are his options?