So I’m a 27M with a pretty abusive, toxic family, and lately my mom has been telling me that it’ll be really hard for me to get a girlfriend or wife after I turn 30. She keeps saying that men after that age are “out of demand,” and it feels like she’s just trying to bring me down. She’s generally a very toxic person and tends to neg me a lot.
Is any of this actually true? From what I’ve seen online, men often peak in their 30s, especially if they’re confident and doing well in their careers, but I’m still worried if i am running out of time (the effects of narc parents i guess). What are your thoughts on this?
i was literally single for all of my 20’s. turned 30 this year and found the love my life. dont listen to that bullshit
This. Your moms opinion is one out of 8 billion. It counts for nothing
I don’t know your nationality, where your live and your cultural background, but generally speaking among Westerners aging men stay well in the market or even get more options as they age.
I would neglect your mother. It’s your life, not hers
Her exact words are a projection of how women are taught to feel, coming from unhealthy sources of information – so don’t take it on board. Unless a man has done incredibly well or had a large gift of money in their 20s, they are just coming into their stride in their 30s.
Your mom isn’t giving you insight, she’s projecting her own bitterness.
Men don’t “expire” at 30. Most actually become more attractive because confidence, stability and direction take time to build.
What you’re hearing isn’t truth, it’s conditioning from someone who benefits when you doubt yourself.
Your timeline isn’t collapsing, and her influence is.
I think youd be better served by exploring how your mother has that much influence on you when you know she has those traits. That will forever be a greater burden to you than turning 30.
I am older than you and women in there early 20s say age is just a number. Your mother doesnt understand,
Lol.
A mans dating prospects on average have just hit their stride at 30.
From 18-30 is a giant uphill spike that basically levels off and stays similar all the way to 60. With the peak at about 50.
I’m 36 and my wife is 23. And yes, we have things to talk about, listen to same music, watch same movies etc.
The only people who hate are just jealous, man. Do your thing.
As iv undstood thing. Men in there 30 and 40s have nonproblems assuming they look after themselves
Trust your intuition, she’s wrong on all levels. Heal from her before you commit to the rest of your life , ❤️
I got more action and attention from women, in my 30’s than I ever did