Hi
I know it’s stupid and probably been talked about 100 times but, how can I be secure about my height as a young man.
I’m 17 M, and feel so small around my friends being 5’9, 140lbs.
My Dad is 6’6, and Mom is 5’4
I’m conventionally attractive, which is a recent development, but just feel insignificant with my height in rooms or with people.
I know it’s dumb but, my 13 year old little brother is almost taller than me and it has just made me feel worse.
I know, I’ll probably grow more, but how do I just become comfortable with myself in the mean time?
Build muscle. You’re the prime age for bulking up; it will never be easier than it is now.
Focus on posture. A man of your height who stands tall and proud commands a bigger presence in the room than someone taller who slouches.
5′ 9″ is not short. Where do you live?
Yeah 5’9 is above average. Global average for men is 5’7, and like 5’9 in the US. So unless he lives in Scandinavia or somewhere with very tall genetics he may be below average nationally but that doesn’t mean he isnt above average for the world and exactly average for the US.
Dude your perfectly average
Perfectly average for the US, globally hes above average lol. Poor kid has it all fucked up.
I’m 4’11” my husband is 5’4” on a good day. Be funny, be kind, be a good person. Make yourself the kind of person you’d want to be friends with. Height isn’t everything.
You realize you are above the world average for men right? Average height for men is 5’7.
Read up more on health issues and how many times a height can get in the way of things. Many people who are taller might be more prone to injury because the longer bones can facilitate a larger lever arm action across the length making it easier to break.
There are other activities as well where height is restrictive and in the way such as accessing low areas, caving, sitting in vehicles, and omg being in planes. I’m 5’9″ I still hate being on planes for how cramped it feels. Many people who are tall tend to die younger. There is some studies out there that the lifespan of something is proportional across species to its energy intake. Less mass, less energy intake, longer life.
Its easier to buy things for your size since it’s closer to the average.
>> Hi I know it’s stupid and probably been talked about 100 times…
Yes. Just do a search on Reddit and gather the data from those comments to populate your data set. Much more responses vs starting from scratch.
All of these questions are just the same: rational acceptance and move on shorty!
I think you mean “radical acceptance” not “rational acceptance”.
Just walk around outside and notice the reality that most men are not taller than you
Bruh you’re average height for a man. So for starters, start a gratitude journal where you make one entry a day to write something you’re grateful about in your life. Really. It’s a good practice for anyone. When you intentionally remind yourself of things to be grateful for it’s a lot harder to be unhappy about something totally fine like being average height.
Find some hobbies that you genuinely enjoy that require skill. Getting good at them will build your self esteem. It could be something practical like wood working, or something that’ll build your athleticism and give you confidence in your ability to defend yourself or others like boxing or kickboxing, or you could go for the old tried and true weightlifting to just build your muscles, though gym time doesn’t necessarily teach a good skill.
Just keep in mind that men often often over estimate how much women like huge jacked muscles. What most women really prefer is healthy confidence (NOT obnoxious shallow cockiness) and obvious fitness and athleticism without being humongous and scary. You don’t want to become one of those dudes who’s perpetually unhappy because he’s never satisfied with his body.
So in general I’d recommend you go for a hobby or two that improves your health, teaches you skills, and helps you build genuine attractive confidence. Eventually you won’t even think about your height anymore.
I got into boxing last year and love it so that’s my biased recommendation. It’s easy to find a boxing gym in most cities, it builds the type of body that women really like (athletic, muscly, 6-pack but not jacked), and builds confidence yet it’s simultaneously humbling.