I will say I go to the gym quite a bit. 5 days a week for an hour. So it’s not being out of shape that‘s doing it. I’m not bragging about my shape (because obviously it’s not doing much for me).
I usually aim for women I’m not very attracted to because I don’t think I’ll succeed with an attractive woman (though one woman said it was painfully obvious that I was faking attraction). So, I’m sticking with ugly women for now, (at least below my current rating on a 1-10) then moving up later.
I make better money than I did even last year. 49k up to 75k because I finished school.
The one downside is that I don’t have a lot of hobbies outside the gym. My best friends are women and it’s proven to be hard to make male friends, not sure why.
Some people who know that I have these woman friends want me to ask them out. Which I wouldn’t go for even if they were single because they’re too good of friends to make that risk (even though they’re objectively attractive).
I put in a hell of a lot of effort into dating the past year and I’ve had no luck. I’ve even stopped caring about getting rejected unless it gets me in trouble with someone. What else am I doing wrong?
I get the feeling that you sweat desperation or your face met a sledgehammer sometime in your life, or you are as tall as a garden gnome, because if all you say is true, then something should have happened by now. Stop the “target low” and overthink everything. Finding someone is chaotic, it happens from no angle, to every angle. If you pressure it, it will crack, if you don’t act on it, it will rot in place.
True. And the OP has it all wrong. You should be going for the women you want, not half heart the ones you don’t like.
The biggest tell is when dudes act like this. “here are my stats on my fitness, here is my income level, where is my sex???”. plus, “my current rating on a 1-10” to describe women’s attractiveness, aiming for women he’s not attracted to.
the subtext is “i see women as objects”
Gotta be something you’re saying to them lol.
I think the fact he cannot hide is lack of attraction to the ugly women is key. Most men are willing to fake attraction moderately successfully to get sex out of the interaction if sex is what they want.
Unpopular opinion here but this is worth a trip to Vegas. Go visit a legal brothel, bang one of those gals who you pay to bang you, and get it out of your system.
Work on your social skills
Why not ask your women friends what they think the issue is? They will likely be honest with you.
When you say you’ve put effort into dating do you mean you’ve gone out on dates, or you’ve tried to get a date? If you’re going on dates, what happens?
Seems that there’s something your not telling us.
“I usually aim for women I’m not very attracted to because I don’t think I’ll succeed with an attractive woman…So, I’m sticking with ugly women”
What an incredibly horrible thing to think. Let alone, say publicly
Maybe the women are picking up on the vibe, above. Try being a better person.
What do all these women you are good friends with say about your lack of success?
>I usually aim for women I’m not very attracted to because I don’t think I’ll succeed with an attractive woman (though one woman said it was painfully obvious that I was faking attraction). So, I’m sticking with ugly women for now, (at least below my current rating on a 1-10) then moving up later.
\++man perhaps they can feel your utter disdain for them, and intention to dump them as soon as is convenient?
Aiming for women you aren’t attracted to sounds like a terrible idea. There’s not going to be any chemistry if you’re faking attraction therefore it is highly unlikely to lead to sex. Most women are going to pick up on that shit a mile away.
Shoot your shot with women you’re attracted to what have you got to lose?
You are on reddit and have a writing style that suggests a certain tone-deafness to social subtleties.
So… you are probably somewhere on the autism spectrum? That can make it very easy to appear super awkward or even creepy to people who don’t know you well.
Read a book about autism, identify what social instincts you may need to compensate for, and learn the relevant social skills.
Much like the gym can make your strong when you weren’t born that way, learning social skills training can make you charming.
This ⬆️ I’m noticing a trend in all these “can’t meet women…” “still a virgin…” etc. posts.
They never once talk about feelings for women. About romance. About vibes, sparks, chemistry. I’m starting to realize they probably don’t get it.
It’s never “I’ve been on dates with women I met on OLD, and we laughed and looked in each others eyes, and when I touched her shoulder there was this incredible spark, and the smell of her perfume, and it was so fun we talked until they kicked us out, etc… and I’m still a virgin”
Why do men always lead with their height, income and going to the gym as if those are the determining factors that women look at.
It’s about chemistry and how you make her feel. Gym or no gym …