Here’s the original post if you haven’t read it!:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/psrYNPl2bL
My sister said I should make a separate post to update or else people will not see the update, so here it is instead of pasting it in the other post.
I didn’t expect this to gain as much attention as it did. Some things I wanted to clarify is that I can’t always get items taken in because I live kind of far away from the shops. It would require a lot of time and money. Another point is that I have previously told my friend when we were walking into the stores she took me to, that I can’t fit the items that are there. She would just say to help her out instead, which is the same thing I said when she refused to come inside the store with me.
Anyways, the update is
I went to a party the other night and she was there too. We didn’t talk for most of the time, but I went over by the end and tried to apologise but she just called me a lot of different names I don’t think I should say here. She found new “best friends” or something, and they seemed really close at the party. They were all giving me weird looks and stuff but I don’t really mind so much, seeing that I am NTA here for the most part. I do have other friends than her and even though they were not with me for as long as she was, I think they are much better. Even my sister thinks so too and she also used to be friends with that girl. Anyways, we aren’t not friends anymore or anything like that, I just think we need some time apart from each other to reflect haha.
I also realise this problem really isn’t that deep haha… I guess I was just really upset in the moment.
Thank you everyone for helping me with my dilemma. Even if you said I am TA, I think I have learned a lot and I’ll continue to better myself and move on from this and be happier.
glad you’re realizing your other friends do actually care
I thought this was going to have something to do with Marxist Leninists. Not whatever this was.
That is the craziest thing to jump to with a post about XS/S and M/L.
Is it though?
You’re better off but sorry that you lost a friend.
All this over what I assume to be Brandy Melville?
Explains why they’re acting like 13 year olds
She said the name is French. Is brandy melville French?
NTA A person who asks you to accompany her to shop for her clothes who won’t accompany you to shop for your clothes is not in an equal friendship. It’s not fat-shaming for OP to shop at a store which provides clothes that fit her, even if they don’t fit her friend. It’s just the same as the larger friend shopping at a store which provides clothes that fit her, even if they don’t fit OP.
The three people I am closest to in my life have all lost 80-200 pounds. All from different ways.
I literally could not be happier for them. I would go shopping with anyone of them, whether they still need to lose a pound or they have a rocking body.
My best friend is a triathlete and is pretty naturally thin to begin with. I have gone shopping with her more times than I can count.
I would drop every one of them in a heart beat if I thought they wouldn’t go shopping with me.
NTA NTA NTA
Aww man, she overreacted in the first post, and she’s definitely being a jerk now, but I will say going into a store that in no way carries your size is a life experience that can make you want to crawl out of your skin and be swallowed by a hole. Especially at that age.
She sounds extremely immature and insecure. Not your fault or problem.
I remember your original post! Your friend sounds really self-centred, dramatic, and mean. Glad you have other friends in your life who care about you 🙂
NTA she’s insecure and projecting. Live your life, let her sulk in her insecurities of she wishes to.
It’s not a shallow issue at all, but it is part of finding our way through adulthood. From 20-26 I left a lot of friendships because I couldn’t deal with their issues of because we realised we couldn’t come to terms with our vast differences.
Good for you, I’m sure you’ll come out stronger.