As title suggested. There this guy, probably at his early-mid 40s, he carried himself well looked decent and serious.His office level at 20th and mine is 21st.
I saw him in office block and bump to him outside at different locations but we’ve never said Hi before.
l’ve noticed him for few months now, and lately I felt like crush on him ? no visible married ring.
What’s the worst thing can happened if I say Hi ? For context. I consider myself an introvert
female. What’s your view as male on this ?
Thank you, gentlements!
Nothing to worry about.
The worst that can happen is you don’t spend your entire life wondering what would have happened
What’s the worst thing that’ll happen by saying hi? You’ll start a conversation. Maybe it won’t go anywhere. That’s the worst thing.
It will go absolutely as far as she tries to take it.
He tells you he’s also into smashing dudes as well as hates spam.
Please just go for it. Otherwise you’ll live with the regret of not knowing or trying and that sucks.
Strike up a convo and just ask him out. This is what you’d expect if he was into you.
Worst case scenario, the guy is rude. Most likely scenario, the guy returns your hello and keeps going about his day.
You may need to greet him often and find small moments together, like an elevator ride, where you can extend your conversation beyond “Hi”. And perhaps eventually something will happen.
Best of luck.
Let er rip, peaches, fortune favors the bold.
“What’s the worst thing can happened if I say Hi ? For context.”
There are a ton of “baby steps” *in between* saying “hello” and going out on a date.
Most guys *will not assume* just because a woman spoke to them means she is interested or has a crush on him.
Not many *bad things* usually happen from greeting a person with a hi or hello.
In most instances people will acknowledge the greeting and say hi or hello back as they move on.
Maybe *if this occurred multiple times with a warm simile* and eventually having small talk conversations…
A guy may start to wonder if you’re flirting or possibly into him.
Under search circumstances (*if the attraction is not mutual*), he may gently brush you off or possibly see you as being “low hanging fruit” for a potential hookup or casual dating fling.
Most people you meet don’t become dates, most dates don’t become relationships, and most relationships don’t lead to marriage. As one adage goes: “Many are called but few are chosen.”
***“Confidence is not ‘they will like me’. Confidence instead is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’.”*** \- Christina Grimmie
***”If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.”*** \- Unknown
***”Dating is primarily a numbers game…. People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That’s just the way it is.”*** \- Henry Cloud
Best wishes!
Once again: rejection is better than regret. Say that to yourself over and over again.
The worst thing that can happen is you find out that He’s not interested in you. Then you get to move on.
There is no downside to making the first move
The absolute worst thing that could possibly happen is he laughs in your face, tells all your co-workers who join in laughing, until HR get involved at which point you get fired for sexual harassment, fall into a deep depression, start drinking, before moving onto harder stuff, end up addicted to heroin, living on the streets, selling your body for your next fix, until a John abducts you and locks you in his basement where he tortures and abuses you for the next 40 years until he dies and you are left to starve to death, alone in the dark. But that’s probably unlikely.
In reality most guys are so unused to being approached that even if he’s completely repulsed by you, chances are he’ll still be well chuffed that he got chatted up, so will be very nice about it & make up an excuse as to why he can’t, rather than being mean.
Saying hello is *barely* making a first move. I don’t know if you’re familiar with the kinds of posts we get in this sub, but you could say hello, dry hump a guys leg, and grab him in the crotch and they’ll still ask … do you think she’s into me? 🤷
You’ll know what it feels like to be a man when we get rejected for approaching a woman who interests us.