So my girlfriend and I are needing to go into long distance. She’s staying in our home town to go to college and take care of her mother and sister and im leaving town to go work on a farm. Where I’m going i wont have service because I’ll be in the middle of nowhere, and unfortunately this is the only option i have for right now. Im leaving this weekend too, so its gonna be soon. I’ve been hesitant on LDR all my life and avoided them as best as i could because it seemed off to me, but because i want to be with this woman i figured id be open to the idea because she really wants us to still be together. I did some research on them, ways to keep the spark alive while we’re away, and the main things I learned was these three things:
1. Have an end date (date where the distance is closed)
2. Communication
3. Regular visits
I can’t do any of these things, I don’t know how long im gonna be on the farm before I go elsewhere, no service so we can’t do those online dates or even really text, and i can’t go down to her and she can’t come up to me for visits. I’ve tried talking to her and giving her an out for this relationship, but every time she just tells me its not happening, at one point i even just bluntly said that maybe its best we go separate ways and she just flat out said "no". I don’t want her wasting time and burning herself out on this relationship, but she refuses to even acknowledge that as a possibility. I don’t know if I should just end things before i leave so she can actually be happy, or if it would even be worth trying this. I don’t want to end things with her but to me that seems to be the best thing I can do for her before I leave. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
LDR is tough, it basically comes down to communication and commitment to each other for it to work out
No internet or satellite service at all? I don’t understand how you two are going to communicate – write snail mail letters? Do you have a land-line (a regular corded phone in the wall) out there? This lack of communication going to put a huge strain on your relationship. There is no point in staying in a LDR if you’re not able to talk or visit each other on a regular basis. You’re too young to put yourself through the stress and grief of a LDR. My advice is to break-up. Maybe if she ends up in your country farm town after she graduates you two can try dating IRL again.
“all your life”
bro is days old as far as dating goes lol
DUDE listen. if you care about her fuck that stupid farm, she has an actual career path with uni. go move to her city and be near her and make it clear you want to be with her. ain’t no stupid farm job worth losing someone you love
alternately, accept the fact she probably is gonna meet 100 guys she likes more who have a brighter future (in her eyes) than farming in buttfuck nowhere, and just end things with her now and open yourself up to meeting a nice corn fed farm girl lol