My sister and I are both fifteen and both females. My friend who is a guy, let’s call him J; Have been friends since third grade. My sister even made fun of me being friends with him for the first couple years. And throughout grade school I had a friend group of four people, which my sister was not in. My sister just started hanging out with J for the past year and a half. So when me and J were planning to go on a mall trip, we usually don’t include my sister. But every time I go somewhere without her I get scolded from my parents because I didn’t invite her. Like: “She’s so sad you didn’t invite her” or “You were really selfish for not inviting her”. Last time I brought her with and being a teenager I bought a monster energy drink. She then proceeded to tell my parents about it. I just really don’t want to invite her this time knowing how she acts. WIBTA if I don’t invite my sister to a mall trip?
No. You’re allowed to have your own friends
Nta
invite her but tell her that stuff like monster energy drinks are between you and her and to kindly not be a tattletale or you won’t invite her to stuff. is she that bad? i mean if the most she does is tell on you for a monster (maybe not even really super intentionally) that’s not really the worst ever. do you guys not get along? do you think she’s trying to get romantically involved with your friend? or could she just use some friends? sounds like she just wants to be a sister and do stuff with you. imo just ask her to not narc on you about stupid stuff like monster energy (kinda wild that your parents would be that judgy about a monster energy drink at 15 but.. eh)
maybe try to take some time to sort of improve your guy’s relationship if it’s a bit rocky? i dunno.
and if you do choose to exclude her just try to set some expectations that you might just have some limits about how much you wanna hang out, but don’t be mean/rude about it.
having family that you don’t hate is a blessing so imo i’d try to foster the relationship and make it better for both of you. at 15 that might seem hard but if you can be nice and communicate the little things that she could improve on that would make you want to hang out with her more it might help a lot in your friendship long term.
NTA. You’re not an extension of your sister. If they say she’s sad or you’re selfish tell them no you’re not. Rather they’re failing her as parents by not teaching her how to be an individual, including having her own friends and handling her emotions. In 3 years you two are most likely going off to different places.
NTA. I would go without her. You deserve to live your life and have fun. She needs to find her own friends and learn to behave in a manner that people will WANT to hang out with her.
I think your parents should be actively looking for clubs/activities that she is interested in that will help her socialise. Just bc you are twins doesn’t mean you have to do everything together.
NTA just because you are sisters and twins. Doesn’t mean that you have to go everywhere and do everything together. You are not responsible for her social life, just like she isn’t responsible for yours. Your parents pushing any sort of codependent relationship like that on either of you, will hurt your relationship by boundary stomping it.