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Me: Just me.
Girl A: The girl I like. She’s super shy and only talks to a few people like three or four including me, my best friend, and Girl B.
Girl B: Girl A’s best friend. She’s basically always by her side.
So one day, Girl B replies to one of my stories, and that’s how we start talking. We chat for a day, and after that, she starts messaging me nonstop. Like, a lot. She’s super intense.
I keep the conversation going because I think it might help me get closer to Girl A. I’m really shy, and even though I already talk to A a little, I figured this might be a good way to connect more.
After just a few hours of chatting, Girl B says something like, “I’ve never talked this much with anyone before.” I don’t think much of it. A few days later, I tell her I like Girl A. She seems cool with it.
But then, a few hours later, I’m venting about something a friend did that annoyed me, and out of nowhere, Girl B starts saying really awful stuff about Girl A. Like, seriously bad. And I’ve only known Girl B for less than five days.
I haven’t told Girl A because I feel like it would be wrong to break Girl B’s trust. Even though we’re not close, I’d still feel guilty.
But at the same time… if I did tell Girl A, it might make it way easier for me to talk to her. One of the reasons I hold back is because Girl B makes me super uncomfortable, and they’re always together. If they weren’t, maybe I’d have a better shot at getting closer to A.
So yeah… WIBTA if I told Girl A what Girl B said about her?
YTA.
Lets be honest. Girl B likes you. She dumped on A to get you to like her less. This ordinarily would win the AH day BUT:
> it might make it way easier for me to talk to her…If they weren’t, maybe I’d have a better shot at getting closer to A.
Makes you the larger AH.
Jumping on this to add that when I was younger I was girl A in our friend group. I told girl B I liked a boy. Suddenly she was talking to him behind my back and shortly after they started dating. She only did it because I liked him.
I’m wondering if girl A told B she liked him since they are best friends and now toxic girl B is doing the same thing because she doesn’t sound like a genuine person from the context that was given.
Talking crap about someone who is supposed to be your friend to get a guy to like you and not her is always asshole behaviour. She is NOT a girl’s girl
Don’t get involved.
You will always be the person that ended the friendship or something along those lines.
You are in a love triangle. It won’t work out well for you.
ESH but mostly you. If you damage other people’s trust as a way of getting closer with someone you like, then you are not acting out of good will. B shouldn’t have talked trash, but using this as a way to get closer to someone is even worse.
I’m not gonna lie, it might just be me reading too deep into it, but it kinda sounds like that Girl B is interested in you a little. That “I’ve never talked this much with anyone before” kinda sounds like she’s trying to send you a hint. And after you tell her you like Girl A, she starts shit talking her seemingly out of nowhere. Regardless of that, I think you need to reflect and think on it some more. If you do tell Girl A, it should be for the right reason. You shouldn’t be wanting to tell her just so you can fill Girl B’s spot and get closer to A. It shouldn’t be for a selfish reason. That said, depending on how bad the stuff B said about A is, you might wanna tell her, yeah. Asking B about it directly might also be a good move.
In my early 20s I did what you are thinking for my own goals of getting with one of the 2 (not proud of it now), after everything came out I lost contact with all of them and gained nothing but guilt and self hatred. If you want to tell A because you think she should know and are trying to good thing then good for you, but it seems this is not the case, I would keep my mouth shut and try and maybe just express your feelings to A.
Yes, YWBTA. My advice is to stay well clear of this person/ situation. It will resolve organically, but you do not want to be the messenger…
Please tell me you are not over 20 years old. This is so very juvenile.
ESH except for Girl A.
Girl B obviously digs you and is trash-talking her best friend to eliminate the competition. That’s scuzzy. You using that as an in to get closer to the girl you like is not only also scuzzy but it’s almost guaranteed to blow up in your face. Don’t.
There are good reasons to tell someone that a person they love and trust is betraying their friendship by talking smack about them. To get a date is not one of them.
Girl B likes you, it was obvious when she said “I’ve never talked this much with anyone before”. She is trying to make Girl A look worse to you so you pick her.
I would be careful because I suspect she might even trash talk you to Girl A.
I would recommend keeping an eye out on her behaviour but I wouldn’t tell Girl A. It’s up to Girl A to work out her friendship with Girl B.
It could also be a trap if she is trying to sabotage you and Girl A.
Just ask Girl A to hangout 1-on-1, that way Girl B won’t be there. Or even ask Girl A on a date, that makes your intentions really clear and will make sure it’s just the 2 of you.
Stop chatting with Girl B. Keep texting to a minimum. Start texting Girl A more often. Try to concentrate on Girl A. Do not get caught up in drama or stir up trouble . Tell Girl A you like her and talk to her and get to know her that way. You made a mistake trying to get to know Girl A through Girl B.