WIBTA parent if I have my kids (soon to be 10 & 13 in March/April) start getting up at 5 am (when me & my husband get up) & get ready for school. I was going to do this in August/September 2025 but my mother has a whole issue with it & the kids act entitled/spoiled so they also had an issue with it (walking to/from School/bus stop) This is negatively affecting the household. Mind you my mother had me & my 3 brothers walk to school & back starting in kindergarten. So I was unsure on how to feel/confused when I seen my mother trying to find my children rides (even from ppl she didn’t know) to school/from school for money. so I continued to take them from point A to B. I also thought maybe I was in the wrong for wanting to have my kids walk after I saw how my mother responded/acted? 🤷♀️ I thought kids walking was normal? Anyways the 9 year old will put themselves on the bus & the 12 year old will walk to & from school (almost 2 miles each way) the 12 year old already chooses to walk home after school & the 9 year old walks home from the bus stop (but the 9 year old would prefer picked up) Both children will not be happy with this change if it happens. We also live in a state where there’s no minimum age for children to be left alone. The children will have access to phones with 3 emergency numbers & there are cameras on the property. This would be ideal so I can go to school full time and/or work full time. Also I am aware of before/after school programs however the ones in my area will not take my oldest (high schooler) and are not open early enough for our needs (before 6 am) also feel like my children need to be more responsible with a set schedule & routine before/after school. This schedule just so happens to align with ours in the morning. WIBTA parent if I do these morning routine changes? I promise I’m more selfless than selfish, I need opinions.
Yta I remember doing that and having hellish homework and failing classes bc there was litterly not enough time in the day 🙃 fun fact preteen and teens need more sleep not less
Yta I would run away if I was your kid
Of course YTA. What’s wrong with you?
YTA – Why did you have children when you seem to write and post like a child yourself?
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Yta! You are the parent you are suppose to be the one to make the sacrifices for your kids,not make them sacrifice to make life easier for you.
YTA What are you talking about? No school starts early enough for kids to be up at 5am, and neither of your children are in high school. Children need to sleep, getting them up unnecessarily early is bad for their development
YTA. you said so yourself that the school isn’t even OPEN that early for the kids so why do they need to wake up at 5?? You want them to get to school early and wait outside?
YTA – sorry – I know its hard, but they are kids – their natural rhythm is already to wake up later at this age.
if you are studying full time why on earth would you be have to leave the house at 6am? Other people have full time jobs and make it work with kids – and you can do it too – what about their father – if he is there – why isn’t he involved in this? 5am is way too early for kids to be getting up and getting ready to go out – it will have a serious impact on their education if they are too tired to take anything in. They will be exhausted by lunch time.
YTA: Why do your children need to get up at 5 a.m., so you “can” work or go to school full time? So you are neither working full time or going to school now? 5 a.m. would still be dark most places; a 9 and a 12 year old should not be out walking alone in the dark. What is your plan, just have them go to school early and wait? Not a good idea. Really, consider their safety above everything else.
INFO: Why 5am? What time does school start for them? The walk would be 35-40 mins each way. Do you live where it gets really hot and/or snow?