I haven’t seen any of my cousins, grandparents(both moms and dads sides) in like 4-5 years. Next month, one of my cousins getting married, so I would be seeing everyone from my dad’s side. I’m not quite excited about meeting them. Cuz, all these year despite having contacts they never ever gave a thought to call me or smh. Now when it comes to my mom’ parents, I dont wanna meet them. From what ik, they have gotten really really weak. Tbh idk how time do they have left. I dont think I have enough courage(not exactly courage, idk the word here) to meet them in their condition. Although they want to desperately see me. What do I do?
Not the asshole but I don’t think it’d be the right course of action to not see them, you should really work through your feelings so that you are able to meet with them. Best of luck
If they haven’t even tried to interact with you for the past 5 years then I dont think yta. Im assuming your still a kid 20 and younger. Its not your responsibility. If in the last five years they’ve had health problems and could not reach out then maybe a very soft yta but I can understand how seeing them in fragile conditions could be tough.
Did you have a good relationship before that? Also regrets are a hell of a thing. While you may not want to now you may regret it one day and have to live with that.
>Tbh idk how time do they have left. I dont think I have enough courage(not exactly courage, idk the word here) to meet them in their condition. Although they want to desperately see me. What do I do?
Wow.
Your aging grandparents want to see you, and you’re going to avoid them because you don’t want to see them *checks notes* be old?
Yeah, YTA.
In OP’s defense, aging can be a scary thing to witness, especially if you haven’t seen someone in a few years and they’ve had a steep decline in the meantime.
Maybe OP needs someone to sit with them and explain why this is important and how to control any reaction they might have, be it revulsion or sadness or whatever.
Yes, aging can absolutely be scary to witness! But it happens to all of us, barring some tragedy. To tell someone that you won’t see them anymore as they age or their health declines because you can’t handle the thing that they are *living through* both reflects poorly on that person and begs the question of how they would want to be treated in that situation. My guess is not ignored and avoided by their loved ones.
OP’s feelings, even if understandable, don’t prevent them from being in the wrong here, and they need to do some serious introspection.
YTA, your grandparents desperately want to see you and you don’t because they never tried to contact you? Did you ever try to contact them? And if you care so much about contact then why are you avoiding them when they wanna see you? You’re definitely the arsehole.
bro, u read it wrong. grandparents part is after the contacting part 🥲🥲. the contacting one was for the cousins.
My bad, I’m not known for being intelligent
Suck it up and go see your family